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Good morning Miss L.

I am curious about finding a Domme/Mistress but all I seem to be able to find on CL are spam and BS. I have been with dominant gf's in the past and enjoy being submissive to my partners needs and wants...not just sexually either. I am 28 white and live in Reston, VA. Are there any clubs or places to meet people in this lifestyle in this area? Or how would you recommend approaching finding a Domme? I am open to joining a website or club if that is what you recommend.

Thank you,

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Good morning Miss L.

I am curious about finding a Domme/Mistress but all I seem to be able to find on CL are spam and BS. I have been with dominant gf's in the past and enjoy being submissive to my partners needs and wants...not just sexually either. I am 28 white and live in Reston, VA. Are there any clubs or places to meet people in this lifestyle in this area? Or how would you recommend approaching finding a Domme? I am open to joining a website or club if that is what you recommend.

Thank you,

Hello,

Thanks for writing me! I see you've come to the same conclusion I have, Craigslist might not be the best place to look for BDSM encounters. The rare occasions I see ads that I think are real are usually for professionals.

Luckily I am local and know a few places in the area. You're already getting a great start if you're open to meeting in person as I know most dom's don't like the endless email tag.

Locally there are a couple of places you might look.

Online: Check out Fetlife.com there are lots of groups in the DC and Northern VA area. There's also Collarme.com I recommend the first site. There's also a lot of munches (kinky happy hours and dinner meetings) in the area. Black Rose has one monthly and there's also one in Manassas.

Clubs: The Crucible is in Washington, DC and is a member's only club. They have Dungeon 101 nights that let anyone come to check it out before signing up for a membership. If you don't want to go alone and need an escort, I'd be happy to help and am a member myself.

There's the Fallout RVA in Richmond, VA and Grove Lane Studios in Frederick, MD.

I hope these help. I always love welcoming new people to the local scene. Let me know if you need anything else.

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I can answer questions related to Mistresses/Dommes and their relationships with subs and slaves. I can answer questions about different fetishes, give advice, explain BDSM and dungeon etiquette or just explain overall BDSM practices and protocols as I've learned. I can also help with creative ideas related to kinky scenes, role-plays, punishments, or rewards.

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I've been into BDSM for about 10 years and I've a Mistress for 8 years and have had my fair share of subs and slaves. I have experience with what it's like to be on both sides of the paddle.

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I'm part of the local TNG and Black Rose, and several FemDom groups. I also frequent the BDSM clubs and parties in the surrounding areas.

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www.mundanetoms.blogspot.com

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I have no educational credentials in this area, only years of firsthand experience and knowledge gained through reading, workshops, and listening to ideas from other individuals I deem more experienced in certain BDSM areas.

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I write my own blog.

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