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I am very curious as to know if it is normal or even except a bowl for a Dom to ask a commitment of me if we have never met

We have been chatting via message for six months. I know nothing about him but he has my curiosity wreaking.

What is my next move?

Answer
Melanie,

I would say it would be time to get to know him better, either via phone, or skype.. You need to know so much more about him before entering into any kind of relationship. And really more so for a BDSM relationship.. What are his limits, have you both talked about your limits, are you planning on meeting face to face soon or will it remain a long distance relationship. What kind of commitment is he looking for from you? Does he want to decide who you date, when you date when you cum, and and and.. These are things you need to find out about him before you decide if he is the one you would like to belong to. So in order to do any of this you need to work on getting to know him and what it is he is looking for. I would also find out if he is active in the community and does he have experience in play so if you do get together you know he plays safe..

I would suggest you sign up for fetlife, and look in your area.. You will get to know others who are experienced in a long distance relationship or a up close relationship. You will learn a bit more about yourself and what it is you are looking for in a Dom


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Fem Dom relationships, Male Dom/fem slave, Master/slave relationships M/f, F/f, Long Distance relationships, Leather community, Victorian Lifestyle, BDSM play, Community support, Full time slavery and submission *living together, and how to adjust, protocols, and so forth. Web pages and site for help with finding others in your area. HOH or DD relationships. D/s has always been a part of me I am still active in looking for a relationship either D/s or Mistress/slave, or simply learning more in order to help others. I am always reading, either on the net or books.

Experience

I have been in long distance relationship that were D/s relationships. I have owned both male and female slaves/submissive, I have been both a real time slave, submissive, and submissive wife. I am not in a committed relationship at the moment. I just moved to Indina with in the last year. I can be found on Fetlife.com as LadyAryana. I am not collared, and I still am always on the look for others to play with around me. Slowing I am returning to being active in the community here in Indiana. In the past I have been active in the BDSM community and a DM for play parties. I have been active for the last 20+ yrs in BDSM in one way or another

Organizations
I was active in the GA community when I lived there. I am semi active in Indiana since moving here, I attend munches and demo's / play parties GRALE, Belong to PEP, and other BDSM clubs over the yrs.

Publications
Egroups, Blogs, Journals, And some story writings.

Education/Credentials
Have taken work shops for different BDSM events. Attended SELF given demo's, Been a DM for play parties and private and public clubs. Attending gathering of both D/s, Spanking lifestyles. I have been active in HOH and DD relationships. I was active in the leather community while living in GA. I was trained Victorian and and Gorean, I understand that training varies in each relationship so you adjust to what it is you do for the relationship you are in. I have trained both Master's and Mistress' along with slaves in the yrs I have been in BDSM.

Past/Present Clients
Master, slave, submissive, Tops, and Bottoms. Along with those who simply wanted to learn how to be kinky in the bedroom

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