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I don't even know what question to ask. How to find a dominate man? Do I want a dominate man? Is something wrong with me? I have so many questions.

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Dear Tiffany,

No, there is nothing wrong with you.

Real dominant men, those who know the difference between being dominant and being aggressive, are few and far between. So you will have to do some research, participate in some web sites like FetLife, and be careful with who you approach. Also, get ready for a flood of messages from wannabe's, and regular guys who just want to get laid but are not real Doms.

Feel free to ask any other questions you discover.

Khaos

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Khaos

Expertise

I can answer questions about techniques in BDSM, especially about bondage. I also have plenty of experience in the psychological aspects of it, dominance, mind control techniques, and erotic hypnosis.

Experience

About 14 years experience as a bondage Dom, kinkster, and swinger.

Publications
I write often for http://KhaosTheory.com and published a book about lifestyle design and sexual dominance.

Education/Credentials
I have been studying psychology, neurosciences, and the applied arts of BDSM for these 14 years I have been in it. Most of it is of very practical application and tested in the field. There are no diplomas on the wall, but consequently I am not bound by the limits and constraints of any medical or educational occupation.

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