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I've been dating this guy for a couple weeks we are both 18 and I've know him for a couple years. I really like him. But we've went out 3 times and he hasn't hinted at sex or anything. I am a ginger, so I kinda want him to at least bring it up. I think he is into girls dominating guys, because of some of the remarks he makes. For example, his mom was yelling at his nephew, and said "I won't let u come with us again". Mean that she wouldn't let him go to the mall with her, but my boyfriend may comments like he was getting some sexual thrill from it. And another example is that we were playing minecraft together, and I killed my friend with a sword and he watched it and was making these same comments, and I think he was touching himself. It doesn't bother me if he is into femdom, because I am too, to some extent, I've had fantasia about using a strapon on a guy or being a guys mistress. My question is how do I bring it up to him, I don't want to ask him the next time he makes those remarks. And him be weirded out by it, or think that he needs to hide it, but I don't want to tell him I'm into it, an he not be interested. I would like to know if he is into it though so we could discuss it and maybe get into it someday, that would be really cool because we have so much other stuff in common. And if we have that In common it would be like we were made for each other.

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Abigail

Teenage angst comes from the insecurity and inability to communicate in an open and forth right nature.  If you wish to bring it up, simply find a quiet moment alone and raise it. I would simply say to him "I have been attracted to you, but I have a need to be in control, could you find it in yourself to submit?"

It will bring the point to the table and have it discussed. Be sure though when you do this you have the time, place and ability to act on his response. If he is submissive he will agree all be it shyly at first. Be willing to act on this and take the control of him immediately, which means read about dominating, understand that you need to make demands and that you need to enforce his submission, including light punishment. then take him sexually.

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I will answer any questions concern the lifestyle and may annoy a few because I do dive into the history and psychology of this lifestyle in many of my answers. I have a partner a Femdom Mistress who shares my experiences and assets, as I hers. Also belonging to a couple groups in Europa and Asia. Traveling frequently between the continents. We tend to share information and discuss many of the topics frequently. I will focus on the core items around, training and relationship management for those that are interested.

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I have been involved in the lifestyle since being introduced to it by my father at the age of 13. He was a master in the 50's to 80's but predated the popularity of Gor, and was Pharaonic in nature. I owned my own slaves since my early 20's. I have usually been part of a poly household. For about 6 years three of us ran a BDSM club in Prague until it was "acquired" by the Russian "businessmen". I do not hold any moral taboos about this lifestyle and at one time or another have experience or seen everything imaginable. It is in this absence of mrals that principles, protocols and personal honour must determine the worth of an individual. It is their clear and unwavering adherence to these ethics that make for stauncher things than those which some observance by mere lip service to common morals. When men/women of honour lead, then they do so without malice, without negativity and without thought of personal gain. It only then that they truly attain Dominon over others. Therefore in mastery comes a devotion to duty, and the existence, needs and desires of others that exceeds the submission mere slaves give to the Dominant. A Dominant one must lead, govern, educate and enrich the lives of subjects beign ruled... for otherwise they are but a sycophant and a tyrant. Hedonism and narcissism plays no part in this, it is an apparition that forms from acts done at much higher levels of meaning that mere morally bound persons can not see.

Organizations
I belong to a number of local clubs, and a loose association (not formal) of about 25 masters and mistresses here in Western Europe and Asia who share experiences, training and some exchange trade assets.

Publications
I have not published on BDSM under my name, but contribute frequently to forums. I am consolidating my writings slowly on DarkCastleSin.org for any that are interested in reading.

Education/Credentials
Not relevant although I do have a DCS and DT but I am not Christian so have no moral dilemmas with this lifestyle.

Awards and Honors
Not applicable here, come on in our lifestyle these do not exist but should. When was the last time we had public awards for Worlds Darkest Sadist, World's Most Gifted Shibaru Artist, Worlds Most Diligent Mentor, World's Most Gifted Enthusiast,

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Not relevant; private consults remain so.

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