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Hi,
I'm a 25y.o sub, and have been for sevveral years. Lately though, my Master and i have noticed a change in my behavior. i still respect Him, and still follow His orders, but i have also become far more bratty and challenging. i enjoy pain, and i enjoy using my teeth. But i have never bitten my Master harder than he likes until the other week.
i want to stop being such a brat, and even as i am behaving like this, i can't seem to stop myself. He immediately punishes me for my behavior, but i just keeping pushing. I am worried that He's going to tire of me, though He has said on more than one occassion that part of what He loves about me is how challenging i can be at times.

The difference is now, i don't seem to be able to stop myself, unlike before when i knew the right time and place for that sort of attitude. Do you have any advice on how i can alter this behavior so i am no longer being so difficult? Because i love my Master and i want to please Him. And if i can change this behavior on my own, i will be able to surprise HIm, hopefully.
i look forward to reading your response

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I do not know how to tell you to change your behavior on your own. I know if your Dom ups the stacks for you being a brat it will help you, it is clear that the price your paying for the bad behavior is not enough any longer. He needs to make the punishments much harder on you.  

I am not sure on what else to tell you. For the only other way is for you to remind yourself over and over each day to behave.

I wish you luck, I am very sorry I have no more knowledge on behavior modification.


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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

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