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I am a sub who was with the same Dom for 10 years.  That Dom was only a bedroom Dom and not into the full lifestyle.  I am now with my second Dom who wants to explore the public lifestyle  by attending meet and greets and munches.  

I know how I am to react to Sir when we are in private, or when we are together in public in general.  I am unsure of the rules for me at these functions.  Any suggestions would be helpful.

Sub Cookie

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Cookie,

Your Dom needs to set up what cues he will use and for what when your out or with others. Each couple uses their own set of cues. There are none set for you to follow.

You need to work with Him on what will work best for You both. Sorry that there is not just a set I can give to you. For if there was I would be happy to just pass it on to you

I wish you both a good and happy relationship, embrass The move to stepping out side your bedroom.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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