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I am the D in a D/s relationship and am interested to hear your thoughts on punishment v.s. enjoyment. My sub enjoys pain, ownership, choking and throat gagging(especially) and all the other things most subs enjoy.  

But when it comes to punishment I am slightly confused.  If I flog my sub for disobedience, is it really punishment?  She loves it!  If I humiliate her or make her do degrading tasks, it's ownership....she loves it!  So I guess my question is other than taking these things away, which is a slow moving punishment, what advice do you have on coming up with a punishment regime.

Don't get me wrong, I have a bratty sub who likes to break and stretch the rules for 'punishment' and I love this.  But it's why I ask, if she moves from being a show brat to actual disrespect, which she can do, I want to figure out ways to instantly quash that attitude.

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Have you tried writing assignments? You could have her do research on things and then have her tell you what she has learned.  Some write lines with each letter in a different color. it is very frustrating to say the least.

To give pain is that is what she enjoys is not going to be a punishment.  Maybe if she does not like say the pain or sting of a paddle use it.

Mot sure what else to tell you.

Thanks for the question, and I wish you luck,

awhitecloud

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

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I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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