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I am wildly unhappy with my (lack of) sex life. I'm young, only 22, and it's been years since I've been in any kind of relationship. I'm a strong woman with many friends in my every-day life, but I'm 100% submissive when it comes to sex. I've never been in a d/s relationship, but I really want to try it. I've wanted to try it for years, and I'm finally ready to take action to do so.

The problem is, I have no idea where to start. I know what I want from a partner, but I don't know how to find a partner. I've been considering online sites, but again, I'm not sure where to start. There really isn't anyone in my every-day life that I can talk to about this. I've been struggling with it for a while.

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hello, sorry for my delay.

www.fetlife.com is a great site to find others in your area.

You can fin munches which are meetings in public where you can meet up and get to know others in the lifestyle.

Read about aspects of the lifestyle and take mote to what sparks your interested and then move slowly. No not just get filled with the excitement to jump in. Take it slow and get to know people before you just go off and try something.

Be safe most of all, please.

I wish you the best of luck, please if you need more help look me up on fetlife, I have the same user name.

Thank you for the question.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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