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My Master and I live in central Wisconsin, and when he learned of my interest of speaking to other Masters and their pets he ordered me to look for a meeting in the area. He did specify that while the average D/s relationship is mainly about sex, the meeting was to be, in my Masters words, "civil" My Master is possessive of me, and while he is happy to grant my request, he wants to know that other Masters will stay away from His pet. With that being said, I was hoping you could help this pet find a suitable meeting near by. I hope to hear from you soon, and I thank you for your time.

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lilli --

While BDSM fits within the "alternative sex" description, that doesn't mean that it's all about sex.  There are M/s relationships that are nonsexual and solely about service, and there are certainly groups that meet where all that happens is......talking.

I don't know if you're a member of FetLife (it's essentially a kinky Facebook).  But if you are, click on your location and search "events."  There may be play parties at the local dungeon where sexual contact occurs, but instead look for a "munch" (which is a social gathering at a local restaurant).  Even better, look for a local chapter of Masters and slaves Together (MAsT).

Of course there are those in the Lifestyle that are "dogs."  Same as in any group.  But, in general, people respect the relationships (and property) of others.

Hope you find a suitable group nearby.

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Questions related to power-based relationships in which decision-making authority is intentionally and consensually transferred -- and the resulting imbalance celebrated. I am able to assist those trying to understand where they fit in, and those seeking to structure and thrive in a power based relationships. Specific topics I am able to discuss include: setting and achieving personal and relationship goals, responsible Mastery, the use of protocols and rituals, communication techniques, and conflict resolution. In addition, I am knowledgable and experienced in polyamory, long-distance relationships, bisexuality and a variety of kinky activities ranging from mind games to sadistic play.

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I have chosen to have a power-based structure in my relationships over the past 18 years. This has included a 16-year M/s relationship, several shorter term D/s relationships and various play partners. I am an active participant in various online forums and seek to provide support and advice to those interested in the Lifestyle.

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