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Recently my began practicing the lifestyle and feels she is a sub, however she feels my personality lacks the ability to play the role of a Dom on a constant basis, this is a very new adventure for me and the confusion is overwhelming I don't know exactly what she is looking for I lack the training and the discipline and looking for guidance however I feel the need for her dominance out weights the window for learning I feel this is something I would like to experience as a couple and I'm willing to put in the effort but lack the guidance to figure it out in a timely manner looking for answers on how to move forward.

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You need to look for munches and things in your area where you have friends and see how things Are done. Go and join www.fetlife.com and you can search groups as well other in your Area to help you learn more. It can help you a lot. As well it can allow you a place to ask questions and gain a lot of different views on it. This can be most helpful in learning and growing in the lifestyle.

I am not sure how else to lead or direct you, other then to lead you to a place where you can be in touch with others to help you along your path. To help you grow so that you can decide your role for yourself as well your needs.

Thanks for the question I hope this helps you some. Good luck on your discovery path.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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