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QUESTION: Hello Master.
i am a 48 yr. old female who identifies as a slave, but i need still need some training. i get into trouble because i jump into relationships with Doms because i want to be Owned so badly, and the relationships ( of course ) never work for long.
How do i get the training and experience i need if it's wrong for me to jump into a relationship? The way i see it, the best way to see if you fit someone is to try it, but the other slaves on Fetlife say that living with someone who is considering you is wrong. please tell me the right way to go about becoming someones property?
Thank you very much
Respectfully,
slave karen

ANSWER: karen

There really is no one right way for this.  Making yourself an easy target lends you to being a kinky toy that people can easily tire of, being prudish wont work either.  For the most part it is as much about getting to know the person first.  This actually takes time.  I have never met a sub and taken her as mine in one day, one week or even one month.  I get to know them, I have meetings and usually after about 2-3 months decide to move it ahead to a in-house relationship. Most of the slave I know who want a perm relationship are the same way.  The key to success is not the sex, not the pain, nor even the casual domination but communications. A core and deep understanding of each others needs and responsibilities (yes dom's have responsibilities to their slaves) and then agreeing on a long term plan for that realization.  It takes time.


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QUESTION: Master
You probably saw this question coming! lol
Are You by any chance looking for a slave that craves to be Mastered?
i really love what You wrote on this page about personal honor determining a persons worth.
i seek a Master with integrity and honor.
Finding out that a person i completely trust has lied to me got me into trouble last month.
Please let me know if it would please You to get to know me?
Respectfully,
slave karen

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karen:

I am honored you would consider me, but I do offer my services as a basis for collecting property. I would not want you to think however I am rejecting you.  But you do realize that it would probably be easier for to find someone closer to home. Having said all of this but recall you may be in the Sarasota are of Florida but I used to live Tampa/St Pete's area. There is a very active fetish group there.  I would suggest a munch, perhaps even a couple of outings to fetish events in your area. FetLife has a good calendar of fetish events and easy to find ones in your area.

I have contacts but wont share them on an open forum. I also have no reason to to want to help you in this. If you write a private email/question I will then give you some contacts. Again thank you for your request.

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Expertise

I will answer any questions concern the lifestyle and may annoy a few because I do dive into the history and psychology of this lifestyle in many of my answers. I have a partner a Femdom Mistress who shares my experiences and assets, as I hers. Also belonging to a couple groups in Europa and Asia. Traveling frequently between the continents. We tend to share information and discuss many of the topics frequently. I will focus on the core items around, training and relationship management for those that are interested.

Experience

I have been involved in the lifestyle since being introduced to it by my father at the age of 13. He was a master in the 50's to 80's but predated the popularity of Gor, and was Pharaonic in nature. I owned my own slaves since my early 20's. I have usually been part of a poly household. For about 6 years three of us ran a BDSM club in Prague until it was "acquired" by the Russian "businessmen". I do not hold any moral taboos about this lifestyle and at one time or another have experience or seen everything imaginable. It is in this absence of mrals that principles, protocols and personal honour must determine the worth of an individual. It is their clear and unwavering adherence to these ethics that make for stauncher things than those which some observance by mere lip service to common morals. When men/women of honour lead, then they do so without malice, without negativity and without thought of personal gain. It only then that they truly attain Dominon over others. Therefore in mastery comes a devotion to duty, and the existence, needs and desires of others that exceeds the submission mere slaves give to the Dominant. A Dominant one must lead, govern, educate and enrich the lives of subjects beign ruled... for otherwise they are but a sycophant and a tyrant. Hedonism and narcissism plays no part in this, it is an apparition that forms from acts done at much higher levels of meaning that mere morally bound persons can not see.

Organizations
I belong to a number of local clubs, and a loose association (not formal) of about 25 masters and mistresses here in Western Europe and Asia who share experiences, training and some exchange trade assets.

Publications
I have not published on BDSM under my name, but contribute frequently to forums. I am consolidating my writings slowly on DarkCastleSin.org for any that are interested in reading.

Education/Credentials
Not relevant although I do have a DCS and DT but I am not Christian so have no moral dilemmas with this lifestyle.

Awards and Honors
Not applicable here, come on in our lifestyle these do not exist but should. When was the last time we had public awards for Worlds Darkest Sadist, World's Most Gifted Shibaru Artist, Worlds Most Diligent Mentor, World's Most Gifted Enthusiast,

Past/Present Clients
Not relevant; private consults remain so.

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