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hey how are you could i lose my wife to a master been married 10 yrs 2 boys and she wants to do this without me could you help

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Sure, you could lose your wife to a Master. You also could lose her to a vanilla guy or if she never got together with anyone else.

Relationships require care and attention. And they thrive when the needs of both people are being met. She's told you she has and unmet need. Your first step is to determine what your own needs are. Do you understand what she's asking for? How much time will it take? What is the prioritization of the relationships? Will it include sex? Are you comfortable with what she needs? If not, are there sideboards you two can agree to that would help your comfort ( you meet and approve of him first; you're always present; no sex - or not a specifics type of alex; you get to co-top or be a cuckold; or even you don't wnt to know anything about it).

Adding others can be very challenging. The odds of success increase if the first relationship is strong. The way to foster that is communication Nd a team approach to having the needs of both met.  

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Questions related to power-based relationships in which decision-making authority is intentionally and consensually transferred -- and the resulting imbalance celebrated. I am able to assist those trying to understand where they fit in, and those seeking to structure and thrive in a power based relationships. Specific topics I am able to discuss include: setting and achieving personal and relationship goals, responsible Mastery, the use of protocols and rituals, communication techniques, and conflict resolution. In addition, I am knowledgable and experienced in polyamory, long-distance relationships, bisexuality and a variety of kinky activities ranging from mind games to sadistic play.

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I have chosen to have a power-based structure in my relationships over the past 18 years. This has included a 16-year M/s relationship, several shorter term D/s relationships and various play partners. I am an active participant in various online forums and seek to provide support and advice to those interested in the Lifestyle.

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My writings, insights and discussion contributions are available on Alt.com and FetLife.com. On both websites, my user name is BenMartin

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I do not hold any credentials specific to BDSM, relying instead on knowledge gained from life experiences, reading and conversing with others in the Lifestyle.

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