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I am considering meeting a Master for the 1st time.  I came across this Master online and was instantly drawn to him.  I am new to the BDSM lifestyle (I am 44 and have lived a vanilla life, and I am just now learning that vanilla is not for me).  He has been answering all of my questions.  He has opened my eyes to an entirely new world in which I know I belong!!  He wants to meet me, and I want to meet him, but his "1st meeting" involves me kneeling when he enters my house and allowing him to slide his gorgeous ***** inside my mouth.  This would be our first meeting!!!  Him and I are completely drawn to each other, but I have not met him in person yet.  Is this typical for a true Master to expect this on the 1st meeting.  I am NOT a young naive female....I know the risks.  But I do not know what I am supposed to expect during our 1st meeting......

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Well the first meeting should not be done at your home it should be done in public. This is the safe aspects of you as well being safe. And most do not do sexual aspects at all on the first meeting. What your saying is scary for me and I would never agree to that at all.

Join www.fetlife.com and learn more about the lifestyle, look for local groups in your are and attend meetings and get to know others as they can he'll you learn as well.

I wish you well and be careful.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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