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I would like advice regarding what to do. I am the dom in all aspects of life financial and family. But i would like my husband to be dom in the bedroom but he wont Ive tried to suggest and bought some toys but it never happens. i have started to look at other men. I am kinda worried I will do something stupid I dont want to break up my family but I dont know what else to do

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All I can tell you is to talk with him about it. If it is not something he wishes you might just need to table the idea. Join www.fetlife$com and maybe you both can learn and discover things about the lifestyle together. It might help you both some. Maybe if he is into it look for a munch group and gain some like minded friends, as it will allow you both to learn and grow in the lifestyle.


Sorry there is no easy answer to this an I do not know what else to tell you.

I wish you luck

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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