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wi used to have a good friendship with a man who is in bdsm until i had sex with someone else he stopped com with me 4 11 months as told him to take time out and try and sort his head  out and come b if he can forgive which i thou that is why he came b on oct 2012 he started to show me his world thou fotos and then offering me a whore paper then i panicted and since then he never menioned anything again  if i say or do anything wrong he doent talk with me 4 weeks at a time how can i get thing b and can i the sex with the other man was yrs ago it onl harponed 1 st and all because i thou he did t want me he s alway disapears 4 2 2-3 weeks at time he asked 4 foto of me in my gag and collar and i said in the email this is a foto of me i have alway wanted lol and he has spoken with me since can sort it all i was vtrying to make light hearted fun nothing else with all which has harpooned can get it b on track with him

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Sorry to say, he sounds more predatory, and casual than a real dom.  Perhaps you need to decide if the humiliation of leaving him (and he will try to do so if my assumptions about him are right) is something you can bear. It may require you find some one more sincere and accepting that you are the way you are. It may require someone who not only is not jealous but shares and believes in a poly existence.  It also clearly shows that you are not  his only outlet, but he views you as him being yours.  Decide what you want and make a decision.  Then act on it.  Anyone who holds a grudge for as long as you stated is very very self centered and not going to be considerate of your needs.  I am sorry for this bluntness but if you want sugar coating this is the wrong place.  

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I will answer any questions concern the lifestyle and may annoy a few because I do dive into the history and psychology of this lifestyle in many of my answers. I have a partner a Femdom Mistress who shares my experiences and assets, as I hers. Also belonging to a couple groups in Europa and Asia. Traveling frequently between the continents. We tend to share information and discuss many of the topics frequently. I will focus on the core items around, training and relationship management for those that are interested.

Experience

I have been involved in the lifestyle since being introduced to it by my father at the age of 13. He was a master in the 50's to 80's but predated the popularity of Gor, and was Pharaonic in nature. I owned my own slaves since my early 20's. I have usually been part of a poly household. For about 6 years three of us ran a BDSM club in Prague until it was "acquired" by the Russian "businessmen". I do not hold any moral taboos about this lifestyle and at one time or another have experience or seen everything imaginable. It is in this absence of mrals that principles, protocols and personal honour must determine the worth of an individual. It is their clear and unwavering adherence to these ethics that make for stauncher things than those which some observance by mere lip service to common morals. When men/women of honour lead, then they do so without malice, without negativity and without thought of personal gain. It only then that they truly attain Dominon over others. Therefore in mastery comes a devotion to duty, and the existence, needs and desires of others that exceeds the submission mere slaves give to the Dominant. A Dominant one must lead, govern, educate and enrich the lives of subjects beign ruled... for otherwise they are but a sycophant and a tyrant. Hedonism and narcissism plays no part in this, it is an apparition that forms from acts done at much higher levels of meaning that mere morally bound persons can not see.

Organizations
I belong to a number of local clubs, and a loose association (not formal) of about 25 masters and mistresses here in Western Europe and Asia who share experiences, training and some exchange trade assets.

Publications
I have not published on BDSM under my name, but contribute frequently to forums. I am consolidating my writings slowly on DarkCastleSin.org for any that are interested in reading.

Education/Credentials
Not relevant although I do have a DCS and DT but I am not Christian so have no moral dilemmas with this lifestyle.

Awards and Honors
Not applicable here, come on in our lifestyle these do not exist but should. When was the last time we had public awards for Worlds Darkest Sadist, World's Most Gifted Shibaru Artist, Worlds Most Diligent Mentor, World's Most Gifted Enthusiast,

Past/Present Clients
Not relevant; private consults remain so.

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