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CJ wrote at 2013-05-08 21:18:20
hmmm,, seems like the advice I'll give may differ a bit from what Madame Rax has offered, but yes, some of it will overlap and agree.  



First, I would tell you that I don't know either of you so don't expect Me to say who is right, or who is wrong. The foundation of any power exchange relationship is built on communication, trust, respect and honor/honesty. Rax is correct in her assumption that you may not "know for sure" if he is lying, but on the flip side, he may very well be lying.  Regretfully, there are still a lot of fools, idiots and players roaming around, claiming to be such experts or having such vast experience in the lifestyle. As a dominant, IMHO, a sub/slaves feelings and emotions are important, they should be expressed, and the Dom should help you to learn to deal with them, just as he will also have to deal with them.  Perhaps slightly off topic, but I think you would benefit from reading http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com/fallicy.html Remember, as Rax pointed out,, communication,, without it a relationship is doomed.. Don't hesitate to ask for the two of you to sit down and talk things thru.  I wish you well little one, be safe.  


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Madame Rax

Expertise

I am open and willing to answer any questions involving BDSM that do not specifically concern illegal acts involving children or non-consensual assault against an unwilling party.

Experience

I have had BDSM experience in a professional capacity since 2005. As far as personal, non-professional experience, I have always taken the lead in relationships, friendships, and other situational interactions. I prefer to "wear the pants" so to speak. However, this is not to say I wear the physical pants: I am mostly seen wearing skirts.

Organizations
National Coalition for Sexual Freedom

Publications
Excitedly, this will be my first foray into professional writing about BDSM, however my vanilla writings have appeared in several publications online. I am the former main web editor of a very popular DIY website, writing articles about electronics, repurposing, and sustainability.

Education/Credentials
I have participated in many educational workshops held by Pro-Dommes. I have also hosted a few workshops involving BDSM issues. I have done extensive research on D/s power dynamics and BDSM. As far as education, however, professional sessions and interactions with clients have provided most of my experience.

Past/Present Clients
I have a multitude of both. I specialize in clients with physical handicaps, rare kinks, edge play, LGBT lifestyles, and other underrepresented or marginalized groups.

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