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Catori wrote at 2013-04-03 22:46:45
"And I want this to work i really do its just i feel like I should be doing more and I've told Him about feeling this way and he says that I'm doing fine"



This is him being lazy. You are telling him that you need more, he is telling you that he is not willing to give you more.



" He deserves more he deserves a great looking sub/slave who knows all the rules not a passable looking slave who stumbles with even basic rules"



To me that shows arrogance and selfishness, not what I see as good qualities in a Dom. Then again maybe that is because I am not that kind of Dom. I want my sub happy and fulfilled because they will server me better if they are.



I started out online LDR as well. It is a hard path to follow. I even relocated and after 6 years it ended. There is no substitute for RL. I also think if you obtain permission to go to a play party and interact you will learn more about what it is you feel you are missing.  


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Fem Dom relationships, Male Dom/fem slave, Master/slave relationships M/f, F/f, Long Distance relationships, Leather community, Victorian Lifestyle, BDSM play, Community support, Full time slavery and submission *living together, and how to adjust, protocols, and so forth. Web pages and site for help with finding others in your area. HOH or DD relationships. D/s has always been a part of me I am still active in looking for a relationship either D/s or Mistress/slave, or simply learning more in order to help others. I am always reading, either on the net or books.

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I have been in long distance relationship that were D/s relationships. I have owned both male and female slaves/submissive, I have been both a real time slave, submissive, and submissive wife. I am not in a committed relationship at the moment. I just moved to Indina with in the last year. I can be found on Fetlife.com as LadyAryana. I am not collared, and I still am always on the look for others to play with around me. Slowing I am returning to being active in the community here in Indiana. In the past I have been active in the BDSM community and a DM for play parties. I have been active for the last 20+ yrs in BDSM in one way or another

Organizations
I was active in the GA community when I lived there. I am semi active in Indiana since moving here, I attend munches and demo's / play parties GRALE, Belong to PEP, and other BDSM clubs over the yrs.

Publications
Egroups, Blogs, Journals, And some story writings.

Education/Credentials
Have taken work shops for different BDSM events. Attended SELF given demo's, Been a DM for play parties and private and public clubs. Attending gathering of both D/s, Spanking lifestyles. I have been active in HOH and DD relationships. I was active in the leather community while living in GA. I was trained Victorian and and Gorean, I understand that training varies in each relationship so you adjust to what it is you do for the relationship you are in. I have trained both Master's and Mistress' along with slaves in the yrs I have been in BDSM.

Past/Present Clients
Master, slave, submissive, Tops, and Bottoms. Along with those who simply wanted to learn how to be kinky in the bedroom

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