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I'm a naturally submissive female. I adore older style Victorian or medieval era things, including the history, practices and clothing. My friends would call me out spoken and dominate but that's mainly due to the fact I work with kids and you have to be consistent or someone gets hurt. The point in all this is that I've always found the domestic slave/pet a appealing thing to me. Would my kind of life work though. To be able to run the house hold as a domestic slave even though I have to maintain a certain amount of dominance due to my life's work.

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I think you will be surprise to know maybe women who are submissive/pet/slave have high demanding jobs where they need to be Dominate at the office *so to speak* One good thing about this lifestyle, when you come home you are able to let go and allow someone else to be in charge for the night/weekends *if you do not work on the weekends* Although I will be honest, there is a adjustment to the down time before you walk into the door.. Some of this can be solved before you even get out of the car, and for others, it's no longer a issue after they walk in the door, cause they will slip out of their clothes, put on the collar.. For these women they find that as they remove each layer of clothing, the dominate side slips off as well. Although it really depends on how much control you are giving up, and how much he would like to really have.. All this is something you need to talk about before you enter into a relationship.. If you are not already a member I would suggest you sign up for Fetlife.com and you will be able to meet others like yourself who have jobs which demand they be forceful although when at home, they are completely submissive.. You can also find others in your area which you can become friends with, and if you are not in a relationship as of yet, who knows you might find someone that will help you understand that what you want is actually with in reach.

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Fem Dom relationships, Male Dom/fem slave, Master/slave relationships M/f, F/f, Long Distance relationships, Leather community, Victorian Lifestyle, BDSM play, Community support, Full time slavery and submission *living together, and how to adjust, protocols, and so forth. Web pages and site for help with finding others in your area. HOH or DD relationships. D/s has always been a part of me I am still active in looking for a relationship either D/s or Mistress/slave, or simply learning more in order to help others. I am always reading, either on the net or books.

Experience

I have been in long distance relationship that were D/s relationships. I have owned both male and female slaves/submissive, I have been both a real time slave, submissive, and submissive wife. I am not in a committed relationship at the moment. I just moved to Indina with in the last year. I can be found on Fetlife.com as LadyAryana. I am not collared, and I still am always on the look for others to play with around me. Slowing I am returning to being active in the community here in Indiana. In the past I have been active in the BDSM community and a DM for play parties. I have been active for the last 20+ yrs in BDSM in one way or another

Organizations
I was active in the GA community when I lived there. I am semi active in Indiana since moving here, I attend munches and demo's / play parties GRALE, Belong to PEP, and other BDSM clubs over the yrs.

Publications
Egroups, Blogs, Journals, And some story writings.

Education/Credentials
Have taken work shops for different BDSM events. Attended SELF given demo's, Been a DM for play parties and private and public clubs. Attending gathering of both D/s, Spanking lifestyles. I have been active in HOH and DD relationships. I was active in the leather community while living in GA. I was trained Victorian and and Gorean, I understand that training varies in each relationship so you adjust to what it is you do for the relationship you are in. I have trained both Master's and Mistress' along with slaves in the yrs I have been in BDSM.

Past/Present Clients
Master, slave, submissive, Tops, and Bottoms. Along with those who simply wanted to learn how to be kinky in the bedroom

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