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I still researching and learning about my own likes and dislikes but I know I'm a sub. I hate being in charge even when I know I must take charge for safety reason. My question I guess would be this. How would a new fem sub go about getting like a starter master. I prefer a female as a master myself but have no idea how I would go about it. I want someone who would in a sence...be like a starter class I guess you could say. reading is fine and all but practice is the only way you can truly say no id never do that or yes I love it.

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It is good that you're trying to do a "starter" master situation. Many masters expect full submission at first, which is not inherently a problem for them, but it may be a problem for you. Since you are new in your shoes, I recommend getting in touch with a Switch, such that you may be able to be on equal footing, but eventually relinquish power to them, if you so desire.

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Expertise

I am open and willing to answer any questions involving BDSM that do not specifically concern illegal acts involving children or non-consensual assault against an unwilling party.

Experience

I have had BDSM experience in a professional capacity since 2005. As far as personal, non-professional experience, I have always taken the lead in relationships, friendships, and other situational interactions. I prefer to "wear the pants" so to speak. However, this is not to say I wear the physical pants: I am mostly seen wearing skirts.

Organizations
National Coalition for Sexual Freedom

Publications
Excitedly, this will be my first foray into professional writing about BDSM, however my vanilla writings have appeared in several publications online. I am the former main web editor of a very popular DIY website, writing articles about electronics, repurposing, and sustainability.

Education/Credentials
I have participated in many educational workshops held by Pro-Dommes. I have also hosted a few workshops involving BDSM issues. I have done extensive research on D/s power dynamics and BDSM. As far as education, however, professional sessions and interactions with clients have provided most of my experience.

Past/Present Clients
I have a multitude of both. I specialize in clients with physical handicaps, rare kinks, edge play, LGBT lifestyles, and other underrepresented or marginalized groups.

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