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I am spending the first weekend with my Dom and I would like to do something special to please him, maybe a little out of the ordinary that will not require any special equipment. Any suggestions.

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linda.

Think of the many facets of his personality. Does he enjoy public displays of affection? Offer to engage in semi-public play. If that isn't possible, look for an event. If he enjoys sports, go to a sporting event. Tailor all your activities to the things he wants. Figure out something that is unique to him... and do it. Think of kinky activities to do, as well. Maybe a game of questions - every time you complete a task for him, you can ask two questions. Trust-building games are also exciting - allow him to tie you up with a scarf/belt/something easy. This is a period of getting to know each other, and it is not to be wasted!

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Expertise

I am open and willing to answer any questions involving BDSM that do not specifically concern illegal acts involving children or non-consensual assault against an unwilling party.

Experience

I have had BDSM experience in a professional capacity since 2005. As far as personal, non-professional experience, I have always taken the lead in relationships, friendships, and other situational interactions. I prefer to "wear the pants" so to speak. However, this is not to say I wear the physical pants: I am mostly seen wearing skirts.

Organizations
National Coalition for Sexual Freedom

Publications
Excitedly, this will be my first foray into professional writing about BDSM, however my vanilla writings have appeared in several publications online. I am the former main web editor of a very popular DIY website, writing articles about electronics, repurposing, and sustainability.

Education/Credentials
I have participated in many educational workshops held by Pro-Dommes. I have also hosted a few workshops involving BDSM issues. I have done extensive research on D/s power dynamics and BDSM. As far as education, however, professional sessions and interactions with clients have provided most of my experience.

Past/Present Clients
I have a multitude of both. I specialize in clients with physical handicaps, rare kinks, edge play, LGBT lifestyles, and other underrepresented or marginalized groups.

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