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I honestly do not know where to start. I am involved with someone and I want to be more confident and more sexy and more of everything but I want him to take control and take me over. I want to try the D&S and be able to submit but I have no idea how to do that. or how to become more sexy. Help please?

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Well first he needs to be on the same page as to what you want in the relationship. You are some outside of my world of D/s as it is not the sexual aspects of it.  Yes I dress in all the things he like and enjoys. But we live this outside of the bedroom in you everyday lives.

Maybe you should try going to www.fetlife.com where you can look for some groups and learn from them on the aspects your seeking. I am sorry I am not much help in the direction your looking for.

Please do not give up and join some groups and ask questions and learn from others.

Thank you for the question.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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