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ive only known who i am has a name for 10 months reading material would be very welcome ma'am thank you for your time oh and he called me a slave i told him everyday i was a sub he didn't get it sorry for the confusion and again thank you

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kimberly.

I recommend "Different Loving" as a book choice. Even though you are new to the scene, you must take every opportunity possible to make good decisions, learn, and grow in your submission. It is good that you didn't allow yourself to be trampled, as a slave, but you attempted to make sure your potential Master knew he was doing (which he didn't). Only then can you give yourself fully. I may have sounded harsh when I gave you the advice of not being an emotional mess, but that was tough love. As a submissive, you must learn to put your feelings second to your Master's, but that's eventual - not at first. From the tone of your first message, I assumed you had been together for quite some time. Communication is key, in all BDSM matters.

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Madame Rax.

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Expertise

I am open and willing to answer any questions involving BDSM that do not specifically concern illegal acts involving children or non-consensual assault against an unwilling party.

Experience

I have had BDSM experience in a professional capacity since 2005. As far as personal, non-professional experience, I have always taken the lead in relationships, friendships, and other situational interactions. I prefer to "wear the pants" so to speak. However, this is not to say I wear the physical pants: I am mostly seen wearing skirts.

Organizations
National Coalition for Sexual Freedom

Publications
Excitedly, this will be my first foray into professional writing about BDSM, however my vanilla writings have appeared in several publications online. I am the former main web editor of a very popular DIY website, writing articles about electronics, repurposing, and sustainability.

Education/Credentials
I have participated in many educational workshops held by Pro-Dommes. I have also hosted a few workshops involving BDSM issues. I have done extensive research on D/s power dynamics and BDSM. As far as education, however, professional sessions and interactions with clients have provided most of my experience.

Past/Present Clients
I have a multitude of both. I specialize in clients with physical handicaps, rare kinks, edge play, LGBT lifestyles, and other underrepresented or marginalized groups.

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