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Hello,  I was married for 7 years, had 3 children ( 2 special needs, 1 very healthy). My marriage was full of abuse(physical and mental, to both myself and the children). Also my past relationships were abusive.  I took 7 years to get my life back in order and to move on.
I have been talking to SIR for 7 years and we just met last month. I am very submissive, I  know my place to serve Sir, and to be his completely.
My children are young under the age of 15. Are there ways to protect my children from this relationship, until they can understand?  I have a signed contract, is this normal before being collared?  I understand boundries are ment to be pushed and sometimes crossed in order to become a better submissive. How will I know when crossing boundries is turning abbsive?

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First, you should not have a contract before your collared. Normally you first start off in training and learn of each others need want as well desires. You can have a order and structure and not have your chiildren involved in it.

You should have rules and defined guidlines as well your Sir should be able to lead you and teach you when you are crossing lines or getting close. If things are clear and defined, this should as well give you some guidlines as to the lines so you know where they are.

This is something you need to address with your Sir as well, he needs to be able to lead and direct you. That is apart of his job.

You shoould join www.fetlife.com and join into groups where you can learn as well ask questions of other. You can also find local activties you can attend and get to know other like minded peopel.

Thank you for the questions, I hope I have helped a little bit. Best of luck to youn your family and your Sir. Be well.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

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I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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