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What would be too clingy for a pet?
i feel like i'm too clingy,which i always figured was normal for a pet. But,how much should i actually rely on my Master?
i can still function without Him, (Right now,its long distance thing anyways.) but i still feel,clingy.i rely on Him for what to do,what to wear,what to say,etc. Whenever i see Him i'm usually right by His side. And,generally,miss Him when i'm not talking to Him,or around Him.
So,i was wondering,is there a such thing as too clingy for even a submissive?
And if so,how can i be less clingy without seeming like i'm pulling away,or not interested anymore?

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When we were just getting to know each other we also were LD (about 10,000 miles actually) and I thought she might be too clingy. When we actually met, feel in love, clingy turned into "i don't want to be separated from you" for both of us.

In a M/s relationship the power dynamic can support an intense feeling of closeness, which, to those "outside" could be seen as co-dependency.

This is my third marriage, my first M/s relationship, and I feel "this time I got it right". What I first perceived as 'clingy' has been transformed in closeness, full emotional engagement, emotional intimacy to a degree that I have never experienced before.

But also"too clingy" is your self-evaluation; and a common (and endearing) trait of submissives is to be too critical of themselves. In practicality, only your Master can assess if you are, or are not, too clingy.

See this feeling as an opportunity to build trust and openness of communication between the two of you. Turning fear (or concern) into trust is a wonderful journey.

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We have been married since 2007, and I collared her on November 1, 2008. My slave and I are married, monogamous, and committed to each other. My relationship with my slave is based on mutual love, respect, and frankly fun. Race Bannon has said "if you are not having fun then you are doing it wrong." We are having lots of fun so we must be doing something right! My slave is an intelligent (BS in Mathematics actually), and strong women who chooses to put her power into my service and, perhaps seemingly paradoxically as she is my submissive, my equal. She is my slave, my wife, my best friend, and my only lover. I respect her for her ability to submit and truly believe that it takes more strength to submit then to dominate. She follows, but not blindly.

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Masters and Slaves Together - Marysville (Washington) (founding director) MAsT International - Assistant Northwest Regional Representative 2015, Regional Representtive 2016 BDSM Writers Workshop (April 2016) http://bdsmwriterscon.com/

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My essays are on Fetlife under BrianR (https://fetlife.com/users/9389/posts)

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Engineer (however this probably should be under the category "barriers your slave has overcome")

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With my lovely slave we were Northwest Master and slave 2013

Past/Present Clients
With my slave I have presented at national and international events since 2013. While we enjoy presenting at national events, we find more satisfaction in talking with small groups from Boise ID to Singapore and Hong Kong. Our list of classes is available at

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