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I suffer from a few mental disorders that aren't very severe but every now and again like to rear their ugly heads. During the last month and a half I have spiraled down, this is not uncommon but I have found the only way for me to fix these things is to be entirely alone for a period of a couple months. I greatly appreciate my Dominant but he is a big commitment and I feel at this time he is standing in the way of me getting better. I want to take a break for a few months and I want him to know that I want to come back after that time but I don't expect to be allowed to. I also want him to understand that I can't work through this while seeing him but I don't blame him or anything of the sort. I am debating writing all of this in a letter and giving it to him next time I see him but I wonder if this is an unwise way to handle this. I suppose I am just wondering what to do. Do you have any advice?

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This is why a number of people that have some mental disorders that I know like to live alone and not with their Doms. When they need a time out that can get it and neater side gets upset with it. So it is not all that uncommon.

Does the Dom with with understand this? Is he okay with your needing a time out and that your just not just looking for another one? Well I do not think if you sit down and talk with him that he should understand. And it does not mean you can not see him during the time out, but just not as a Dom. Thus would also give you a chance to allow the relationship to grow in a different way.

I hope this helps some, there is no easy fix to this, it is about understanding each other and being able to make it for for both of you. Good luck and be well and safe.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

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I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

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Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

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I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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