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Are there many dominent women that will help me fullfill my sexual fantasies without bossing me around? I'd like to find someone who will simply allow me to massage them and perform cunilingous on them and simple touching. My life is really lacking in things like that.

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Hi James,

I don't think you're looking for a dominant woman, I think you're looking for a submissive sexual partner.

Perhaps you should read about what a dominant personality is and find out if that's what you want. Here is a link: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/16_Personality_Factors

As a woman who exhibits dominant personality qualities (forceful, assertive, aggressive, competitive, stubborn, bossy) I would not be content to be massaged and then have cunnilingus performed on me with "simple touching" unless I had instructed someone to do so.

Re-evaluate your expectations and whom can fill them.

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Natali Noir

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I can answer questions related to Mistresses/Dommes and their relationships with subs and slaves. I can answer questions about different fetishes, give advice, explain BDSM and dungeon etiquette or just explain overall BDSM practices and protocols as I've learned. I can also help with creative ideas related to kinky scenes, role-plays, punishments, or rewards.

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I've been into BDSM for about 10 years and I've a Mistress for 8 years and have had my fair share of subs and slaves. I have experience with what it's like to be on both sides of the paddle.

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I'm part of the local TNG and Black Rose, and several FemDom groups. I also frequent the BDSM clubs and parties in the surrounding areas.

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www.mundanetoms.blogspot.com

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I have no educational credentials in this area, only years of firsthand experience and knowledge gained through reading, workshops, and listening to ideas from other individuals I deem more experienced in certain BDSM areas.

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I write my own blog.

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