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HI
I am a slave to truly an amazing master.  Him and I have talked about buying a house together and becoming a family. We both have children from  previous relationships. My question is can a master and slave have a vanilla relationship as well.  Can a master truly love a slave since a slave is beneath him. I do have very strong feelings for this man and I know he feels the same for me.  BUT CAN WE ARE LIVE VANILLA


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Hi Tracy Wonderful question.

Quick answer, yes; but why?

I am Master to my slave. She is my slave, my best friend, my lover, my companion, who fills my life so completely there is no room nor need for another. While she is my slave, she is not beneath me. As a person she is my equal, but she has given her consent to be lead by me. To accept my decisions as final.

But likewise as her Master, while I have final authority I also have responsibility as well. As she serves me, so do I serve our relationship.

But, and here is the most important part, living together you cannot remain high protocol. It is a journey from fantasy to reality. You can remain his slave while at the same time being his wife. You can trade the excitement of anticipation for the fulfillment of a deep, committed, emotional relationship.

I know because I have been married to my slave should since 2008.

Thank you again for your thoughtful, and heart felt question.

Brian
Northwest Master 2013

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I will answer questions related to long term Master/slave relationships.

Experience

We have been married since 2007, and I collared her on November 1, 2008. My slave and I are married, monogamous, and committed to each other. My relationship with my slave is based on mutual love, respect, and frankly fun. Race Bannon has said "if you are not having fun then you are doing it wrong." We are having lots of fun so we must be doing something right! My slave is an intelligent (BS in Mathematics actually), and strong women who chooses to put her power into my service and, perhaps seemingly paradoxically as she is my submissive, my equal. She is my slave, my wife, my best friend, and my only lover. I respect her for her ability to submit and truly believe that it takes more strength to submit then to dominate. She follows, but not blindly.

Organizations
Masters and Slaves Together - Marysville (Washington) (founding director) MAsT International - Assistant Northwest Regional Representative 2015, Regional Representtive 2016 BDSM Writers Workshop (April 2016) http://bdsmwriterscon.com/

Publications
My essays are on Fetlife under BrianR (https://fetlife.com/users/9389/posts)

Education/Credentials
Engineer (however this probably should be under the category "barriers your slave has overcome")

Awards and Honors
With my lovely slave we were Northwest Master and slave 2013

Past/Present Clients
With my slave I have presented at national and international events since 2013. While we enjoy presenting at national events, we find more satisfaction in talking with small groups from Boise ID to Singapore and Hong Kong. Our list of classes is available at

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