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I've only recently begun to realize that I am a little and have always had little tendencies. I spoke to a couple close friends about being a little and was laughed at as told you only just realized this? we have known this all along, that's just you. I'm in a closed poly relationship and haven't yet brought this up to my spouses, my "wife" already treats me like a little and always indulges into my wants/needs my "husband" on the other hand has times where he will "baby" me so to speak an others where he expects me to " be the adult". how do I go about trying to explain to them both that I've come to the realization that I am/have a little side...and that I enjoy being little. I'm just not really sure how to approach this with them without feeling like I'm making a mistake in telling them.. they already answer to mama and papi for me... always have...

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Shar,

I would suggest you show them this email or share it with them via email along with what it is you feel with more details then you had here.. So the best thing you should do which you already know is to communicate with everyone involved, and be honest with them, and mostly with yourself. If you can't be honest with them then you really need to think about the relationship.. If you aren't already on fetlife, I would suggest you get on, and join some of the little groups that are up there. These people can help you more then I can as I haven't had a real life relationship as a little.

I wish you luck and I hope things work out for you.

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Fem Dom relationships, Male Dom/fem slave, Master/slave relationships M/f, F/f, Long Distance relationships, Leather community, Victorian Lifestyle, BDSM play, Community support, Full time slavery and submission *living together, and how to adjust, protocols, and so forth. Web pages and site for help with finding others in your area. HOH or DD relationships. D/s has always been a part of me I am still active in looking for a relationship either D/s or Mistress/slave, or simply learning more in order to help others. I am always reading, either on the net or books.

Experience

I have been in long distance relationship that were D/s relationships. I have owned both male and female slaves/submissive, I have been both a real time slave, submissive, and submissive wife. I am not in a committed relationship at the moment. I just moved to Indina with in the last year. I can be found on Fetlife.com as LadyAryana. I am not collared, and I still am always on the look for others to play with around me. Slowing I am returning to being active in the community here in Indiana. In the past I have been active in the BDSM community and a DM for play parties. I have been active for the last 20+ yrs in BDSM in one way or another

Organizations
I was active in the GA community when I lived there. I am semi active in Indiana since moving here, I attend munches and demo's / play parties GRALE, Belong to PEP, and other BDSM clubs over the yrs.

Publications
Egroups, Blogs, Journals, And some story writings.

Education/Credentials
Have taken work shops for different BDSM events. Attended SELF given demo's, Been a DM for play parties and private and public clubs. Attending gathering of both D/s, Spanking lifestyles. I have been active in HOH and DD relationships. I was active in the leather community while living in GA. I was trained Victorian and and Gorean, I understand that training varies in each relationship so you adjust to what it is you do for the relationship you are in. I have trained both Master's and Mistress' along with slaves in the yrs I have been in BDSM.

Past/Present Clients
Master, slave, submissive, Tops, and Bottoms. Along with those who simply wanted to learn how to be kinky in the bedroom

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