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Hello. Ive been with my fiancé for ten years, and I've always been interested in bdsm. I was wondering if you had any advice on how to get him interested in it. He knows what i want (which was difficult because i am very shy) and he acts like he's into in but then it just never goes anywhere. Im starting to get really frustrated and im not sure what to do.  Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

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Hi, Lena --

Movie: Secretary -- that's more Master/slave towards the end, but for those of us who live it, pretty real.

Books: When Someone You Love is Kinky; The Loving Dominant; Screw the Roses, Send me the Thorns

Might try watching some "rougher" porn, depending on what you like.  You can pretty well do a Google search for some word plus the word porn and get hits... so BDSM porn gives lots of sites.

How about joining your local BDSM club?  The easiest way to find THAT is to join www.FetLife.com -- it's free.  Then do a search using the name of your city and you'll likely find no only a lot of people, but possibly a Fet group for your community.

If you go on Fet, I'm Dr_Bob and you're welcome to send me a friend request.

Bob

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Robert Rubel (Dr. Bob)

Expertise

Anything related to BDSM or Master/slave relationships or activities.

Experience

See: www.KinkMastery.com I live 24/7 Master/slave lifestyle and have since 2002 both as Master and slave. My Owner and I present and do "weekend intensives" internationally and at BDSM conferences practically every month.

Organizations
Masters And slaves Together (MAsT) National Leather Association - International (NLA-I) National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF)

Publications
+++ BDSM Mastery—Basics: your guide to play, parties, and scene protocols. +++ BDSM Mastery—Relationships: a guide for creating mindful relationships for Dominants and submissives +++ Master/slave Mastery: Updated handbook of concepts, approaches, and practices +++ Master/slave Mastery--Advanced: Refining the fire; ideas that matter +++ Master/slave Mastery--Protocols: Focusing the intent of your relationship +++ Is THAT What They Meant? A book of practical communication insights

Education/Credentials
PhD, Urban Education Policy Studies with a minor in criminology, U of Wisconsin, Madison. EdM, Boston University with specialty in urban education Presented 80+ BDSM weekend conferences worldwide since 2007.

Awards and Honors
Pantheon of Leather Community Choice - Man, 2008

Past/Present Clients
Not applicable.

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