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I have a friend who just became a sub, her dom is instructing her to sneak away from work and go home to Skype him, I am afraid if this continues her job will be in jeopardy, is this a normal thing for a dom to do. I am not sure what the rules are but this does not seem right. She is a single mom with two kids and needs her job. please give advice

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jim.

That depends on the nature of their relationship. If your friend is expressing the fact that it is terrible for her to be sneaking away from work, she should consider talking to her Dom about it. If her Dom is not financially compensating her to do so, and she is upset about it, this is no longer "for her own good" and should be stopped. However, if part of her relationship is gratifying because it causes her to skirt the line of joblessness (and she would be able to take care of her kids with unemployment benefits or public aid) it is not for you to judge.

I am surprised such a Dom would be okay with her having a male friend outside of their relationship. You should take that into account on whether or not to view her Dom as damaging or benevolent.

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I am open and willing to answer any questions involving BDSM that do not specifically concern illegal acts involving children or non-consensual assault against an unwilling party.

Experience

I have had BDSM experience in a professional capacity since 2005. As far as personal, non-professional experience, I have always taken the lead in relationships, friendships, and other situational interactions. I prefer to "wear the pants" so to speak. However, this is not to say I wear the physical pants: I am mostly seen wearing skirts.

Organizations
National Coalition for Sexual Freedom

Publications
Excitedly, this will be my first foray into professional writing about BDSM, however my vanilla writings have appeared in several publications online. I am the former main web editor of a very popular DIY website, writing articles about electronics, repurposing, and sustainability.

Education/Credentials
I have participated in many educational workshops held by Pro-Dommes. I have also hosted a few workshops involving BDSM issues. I have done extensive research on D/s power dynamics and BDSM. As far as education, however, professional sessions and interactions with clients have provided most of my experience.

Past/Present Clients
I have a multitude of both. I specialize in clients with physical handicaps, rare kinks, edge play, LGBT lifestyles, and other underrepresented or marginalized groups.

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