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i have been in the lifestyle for 18 years as a strong and rigorously trained slave. i have entered into a vanilla relationship where my male partner is STRONGLY Dominant. It seems as if is His entire being, but he hasn't recently gotten out of a relationship where His Dominance was stifled to the point of near death. He is coming around more and more to the Man He wants to be. I am having trouble finding knowledgable sources online for Him to view to help Him past His fears and trepidations of breaking from this self restricted choke hold on His Dominance based on society's expectations. Would You please be so kind as to help this slave find worthwhile sources for this wonderful Man to help Him find more fluidity in His natural state? Any help You can provide would be most gratefully appreciated.

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The best place is to be around some like minded people, find an area munch and make friends with others where you can have friends to talk and grow with.  Also join www.fetlife.com and look up different groups, find others in your area and network with others where you can both be free to ask questions.  I am sorry but of late I have not been seeing much on what society expects of one at all, so I am not sure to what you are referring to.  For that is the nice thing about the BDSM world, you take what you like and enjoy and leave what you do not, and your not for the most part judged for what you are not into.  We all have different relationships and we are all different people, so we do not all like or want the same things from our relationships.  

So please just be honest and true to yourself s and get out there and meet others.

Best of luck to you both...and you can always look me up on fetlife as well, I can try to help you out more.

Thank you,

awhitecloud

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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