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I have a tight relationship with my master. About four months out of a year we spend time together. There is only one thing I feel helpless regarding being a slave. I get punished very rare, but I find that in the past, every time he punished me I couldn't control myself from getting wet. I think sometimes he knew it. Although he never say anything, I feel pretty bad about this. If I ever get punished again I want to show him that I'm completely remorseful and I take our relationship very serious. How can I control my body? Last time I literally felt my wetness, actually he didn't even touch me, all he did was ordering me to get naked and kneel on the floor. Am I helpless? I hope not!! I'm confused cos I'm definitely not a very horny person! I feel that there should be a technique to help me control my body reaction in certain circumstances...Thank you in advance!

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jess:

I am sorry but this is an area where I have no experience. Being wet means your body and subconscious is sexually "energized" even if you are consciously holding back.  The energy is coming from your dom/sub relationship and the activities fire-up your subconcious.  I personally believe you need to let go of those things that are mentally holding you back from enjoying the stimulation. This physical manifestation means your body (and subconscious) needs to be used. It is triggered by the control, and caress of your Master. If abuse (punishment) also causes this then very likely you are also a pain slut in the making.  I envy your Master.

Then next time it happens ask your Master for permission to masturbate for him and cum. Let the experience consume you.  I believe the joy you will get from this will be massive.  It is likely your puritanical upbringing which is holding you back. You need to shed those values and simply relax and enjoy.

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I will answer any questions concern the lifestyle and may annoy a few because I do dive into the history and psychology of this lifestyle in many of my answers. I have a partner a Femdom Mistress who shares my experiences and assets, as I hers. Also belonging to a couple groups in Europa and Asia. Traveling frequently between the continents. We tend to share information and discuss many of the topics frequently. I will focus on the core items around, training and relationship management for those that are interested.

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I have been involved in the lifestyle since being introduced to it by my father at the age of 13. He was a master in the 50's to 80's but predated the popularity of Gor, and was Pharaonic in nature. I owned my own slaves since my early 20's. I have usually been part of a poly household. For about 6 years three of us ran a BDSM club in Prague until it was "acquired" by the Russian "businessmen". I do not hold any moral taboos about this lifestyle and at one time or another have experience or seen everything imaginable. It is in this absence of mrals that principles, protocols and personal honour must determine the worth of an individual. It is their clear and unwavering adherence to these ethics that make for stauncher things than those which some observance by mere lip service to common morals. When men/women of honour lead, then they do so without malice, without negativity and without thought of personal gain. It only then that they truly attain Dominon over others. Therefore in mastery comes a devotion to duty, and the existence, needs and desires of others that exceeds the submission mere slaves give to the Dominant. A Dominant one must lead, govern, educate and enrich the lives of subjects beign ruled... for otherwise they are but a sycophant and a tyrant. Hedonism and narcissism plays no part in this, it is an apparition that forms from acts done at much higher levels of meaning that mere morally bound persons can not see.

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I belong to a number of local clubs, and a loose association (not formal) of about 25 masters and mistresses here in Western Europe and Asia who share experiences, training and some exchange trade assets.

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I have not published on BDSM under my name, but contribute frequently to forums. I am consolidating my writings slowly on DarkCastleSin.org for any that are interested in reading.

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Not relevant although I do have a DCS and DT but I am not Christian so have no moral dilemmas with this lifestyle.

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Not applicable here, come on in our lifestyle these do not exist but should. When was the last time we had public awards for Worlds Darkest Sadist, World's Most Gifted Shibaru Artist, Worlds Most Diligent Mentor, World's Most Gifted Enthusiast,

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