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I am in relationship with a young girl who likes male domination. But I tend to be a little too prescriptive and precise in my words. That is not appropriate when I speak to her because she is young and virgin.
I would like you to help me find the best and subtle arguments to build our relationship towards BDSM. (Our relationship will be first by internet for several months)
Of course I have read several books, but I have only got some generalities
I hope that I don't bother you with my little problem?
Thanks a lot !

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Unfortunately, I don't really feel comfortable answering your original question as I have a lot of concerns with the information you gave me. I would suggest that if this girl is over 18 that you just let the relationship build naturally, but let her know (in passing) that you do have an interest in bondage. If she isn't sure what it is, then direct her to some informative websites (like asubmissivesguide.com or asibdsm.com) where she can get ACCURATE and SAFE information. Unless she shows a genuine interest, I wouldn't suggest "guiding" her.. especially if she's never had a sexual relationship before.  

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Jessica Cocker

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BDSM lifestyle, Dom/sub relationship, daddy/little girl relationships, BDSM theory and practice with real life applications, sadism and masochism, bondage application with some rope/shibari experience, BDSM toy information, BDSM and bondage safety, I can answer questions regarding M/s based on research, but I have no experience in a M/s dynamic.

Experience

7+ years exploring the lifestyle, 1+ years in 24/7 DD/lg relationship, 1+ year at A Submissive's Initiative

Organizations
Founder/CEO of A Submissive's Initiave, Founder/CEO of A Dominant's Initiative, Founder/CEO of The Safe Submissive

Publications
www.asibdsm.com

Education/Credentials
Self education, along with educational research for A Submissive's Initiative. 3 years into my Bachelors in Early Childhood Education, with experience working in the field.

Past/Present Clients
Currently guiding my Daddy through exploration of his DD side, as well as providing mentoring to several people through A Submissive's Initiative and providing supporting through A Dominant's Initiative and The Safe Submissive

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