BDSM/Subspace

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My Dom and I have a long history, we know just about everything about each other. This recently brings up an issue, he is very unsure of letting me slip into sub space. We have talked about it and I can see why. I have a long history with depression, anxiety, and self harm so he doesn't want anything to go wrong. I really enjoy our play time and I trust him completely. I am a pain whore but I would like to take it to the next level. I have never had to safe-word, and I feel I am ready but he is very iffy. Is there any safe way to pull me back quickly if the need arose? Do you have any advise on how I can ease his mind?

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for myself subspace is a zone of per bliss.  And you need to find ways to pull you out of subspace should the need be.  Well I know that I have some issues and I have never needed to be pulled out of it, the issue is that when I come out at times it is hard to just not want to go back and stay there.  Sometimes it can take awhile to come out, we just talk and cuddle and he makes it all okay, to be just as safe in the here and now as I felt in sub space.

You will have to try different things if you feel the need to have to be pulled out, it is different for each person.

I wish you luck, and sorry for my delay I have major foot surgery and have not been able to access on line.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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