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I had written to you a few weeks back about how my husband wears a chastity belt full time now. It's been two months since we last had proper peno-vaginal sex. At first teasing and denying him was fun but gradually I have started missing traditional intercourse. It seems in fulfilling his fantasy of being put in a chastity belt I have had to forgo my own desires. He tries to satisfy me by using a strap on dildo but it is just not the same. The feeling of being fucked by a man slowly and languorously, having a man move inside you and then orgasm and ejaculate inside you is completely missing.

So I recently broached the idea of me taking a lover to my husband. At first he was against it but I gave him an ultimatum, either we could go back to normal peno-vaginal sex without chastity or if he wants to be kept in chastity then it is only fair for me to satisfy my desires elsewhere. He is also reluctant to reduce our chastity play to a few days of the week or a fixed time of the month. He wants it full time.

I have already picked out a man with whom to have sex. He is a friend of mine and he had asked me out a few times in the past. I don't like doing this, but I do have needs and I can't imagine a life of only tease and denial and no intercourse. I have told my husband that he can listen to us make love from inside the closet, so that he will not feel completely excluded from my sex life. Do you agree with what I am doing? Do you have a better option?

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Anagha,

No I think you are pretty well doing what needs to be done.. I mean if he wishes to be in chastity full time, than he needs to understand you have desires as well. So for you to meet his wants/needs, you have to be able to do the same thing. And really being in a cuckholding relationship what you are talking about is normally what happens. So if he doesn't like the idea he needs to man up and do what it is you are wanting. Even if he isn't allowed to cum. You can make it harder for him to release, and remove him from the device long enough to meet your needs. Although personally I think you would be better off finding someone who can meet your needs, and make it clear to your husband his penis isn't long enough, wide enough or man enough to take care of his wife. So this is the only want you can get real release. He will either decide it is not what he wants, or he will figure out he isn't able to give you real pleasure so he will look forward to you having someone else.

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Fem Dom relationships, Male Dom/fem slave, Master/slave relationships M/f, F/f, Long Distance relationships, Leather community, Victorian Lifestyle, BDSM play, Community support, Full time slavery and submission *living together, and how to adjust, protocols, and so forth. Web pages and site for help with finding others in your area. HOH or DD relationships. D/s has always been a part of me I am still active in looking for a relationship either D/s or Mistress/slave, or simply learning more in order to help others. I am always reading, either on the net or books.

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I have been in long distance relationship that were D/s relationships. I have owned both male and female slaves/submissive, I have been both a real time slave, submissive, and submissive wife. I am not in a committed relationship at the moment. I just moved to Indina with in the last year. I can be found on Fetlife.com as LadyAryana. I am not collared, and I still am always on the look for others to play with around me. Slowing I am returning to being active in the community here in Indiana. In the past I have been active in the BDSM community and a DM for play parties. I have been active for the last 20+ yrs in BDSM in one way or another

Organizations
I was active in the GA community when I lived there. I am semi active in Indiana since moving here, I attend munches and demo's / play parties GRALE, Belong to PEP, and other BDSM clubs over the yrs.

Publications
Egroups, Blogs, Journals, And some story writings.

Education/Credentials
Have taken work shops for different BDSM events. Attended SELF given demo's, Been a DM for play parties and private and public clubs. Attending gathering of both D/s, Spanking lifestyles. I have been active in HOH and DD relationships. I was active in the leather community while living in GA. I was trained Victorian and and Gorean, I understand that training varies in each relationship so you adjust to what it is you do for the relationship you are in. I have trained both Master's and Mistress' along with slaves in the yrs I have been in BDSM.

Past/Present Clients
Master, slave, submissive, Tops, and Bottoms. Along with those who simply wanted to learn how to be kinky in the bedroom

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