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Ok so I'm 17 and I met this 24 year old guy on Facebook. We really hit it off and got into a relationship and I learned he's a Dom. Now I'm not sure whether I'm a submissive or not and I have no one whom I can share BDSM related things with as most people think it is strange and abusive and no one really knows much about it anyway. I used to have fantasies about spanking as a very young child and when I think of being tied up or called names, it turns me on very much but other than that, the majority of my fantasies are romantic instead of sexual.
However, should I get into this lifestyle? I'm so young and it is so complex and dangerous. I don't even know whether I'm a submissive because I only like these things sometimes and not full time as a lifestyle. These thoughts are really disturbing my studies because though BDSM seems amazing, my exam results count the most. My boyfriend is so busy these days and I can't even talk to him about these things in detail.

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All of it is fine, until you start comparing your preferences with what you think is "normal" or other people's standards.
The way you experience pleasure is a very personal, individual experience, and a Dom must be sensitive and skilled enough to nurture and promote it.

The fact that you can't talk to him about it is troubling. It means that he is not a Dom or at least doesn't know how to be one, or that he is not approachable and open-minded enough to talk about it without being judgemental.

I don't know what is the age of consent in India. Hopefully he is not crossing a legal line here...

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I can answer questions about techniques in BDSM, especially about bondage. I also have plenty of experience in the psychological aspects of it, dominance, mind control techniques, and erotic hypnosis.

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About 14 years experience as a bondage Dom, kinkster, and swinger.

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I have been studying psychology, neurosciences, and the applied arts of BDSM for these 14 years I have been in it. Most of it is of very practical application and tested in the field. There are no diplomas on the wall, but consequently I am not bound by the limits and constraints of any medical or educational occupation.

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