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What do you call a sub who tries to steal another subs Master?

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Well, we probably need more information...  We don't tend to "name call" because we try to retain civility in  the scene, but you can reframe this to mean that you have a Master who is so worthy that another person also sees his mastery and wishes to be part of his life.  Of course, he may choose to have two submissives, too.  So - part of the response depends whether this other person is being above-board and up-front in her approach to you and to your Master or whether she is not.   If a second slave is brought in, you -- as Alpha slave -- are responsible for the beta slave's training.  In fact, in most cases I know of like this, the beta slave reports to the Alpha slave who controls her access to Master until such time as the beta slave can be trusted not to disrupt your basic relationship with your Master, after which time the three of you can renegotiate past the initial probationary period.  

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Robert Rubel (Dr. Bob)

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Anything related to BDSM or Master/slave relationships or activities.

Experience

See: www.KinkMastery.com I live 24/7 Master/slave lifestyle and have since 2002 both as Master and slave. My Owner and I present and do "weekend intensives" internationally and at BDSM conferences practically every month.

Organizations
Masters And slaves Together (MAsT) National Leather Association - International (NLA-I) National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF)

Publications
+++ BDSM Mastery—Basics: your guide to play, parties, and scene protocols. +++ BDSM Mastery—Relationships: a guide for creating mindful relationships for Dominants and submissives +++ Master/slave Mastery: Updated handbook of concepts, approaches, and practices +++ Master/slave Mastery--Advanced: Refining the fire; ideas that matter +++ Master/slave Mastery--Protocols: Focusing the intent of your relationship +++ Is THAT What They Meant? A book of practical communication insights

Education/Credentials
PhD, Urban Education Policy Studies with a minor in criminology, U of Wisconsin, Madison. EdM, Boston University with specialty in urban education Presented 80+ BDSM weekend conferences worldwide since 2007.

Awards and Honors
Pantheon of Leather Community Choice - Man, 2008

Past/Present Clients
Not applicable.

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