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I've been working on a paper for my college English. My thesis is "why society views BDSM as a morally reprehensive act". I am trying to prove that xenophobia (fear of the unknown or change) is a huge factor in society's perception but I cant find any information about why BDSM is kept so secretive. Please help!

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Olivia:

this is one of the few times where I CAN NOT help. I live a lifestyle of total openness and honesty so the concept of deception (even to keeping this secret) is foreign to me.  My friends, work colleagues, family and children all know my lifestyle, my personal peculiarities and accept/reject this. I have never hidden what I am or why, nor do I support or condone subterfuge on the part of my peers, or family.  To many I am simply a "Creepy Old Man"  to others I am the epitome of a dominant, to yet others I a sick mother-f&*Ír.  Eacha re probably equally right, My 11 y/o son puts it best, "Dad is just weird... but in a good way".  SO the concept of keepign is secret is just a part of what I do, think or say.

Now if you have questions about it and why society thinks the way it is, change the question... ask why society is too hung up on social principles centuries old that are large built on hipocracy and denial of the essential fact that the human is a sexual animal and with an overtly inquisitive mind.  Denying BDSM is the last vestiges of a puritanical and repressive society bent on control of the bedroom to control the "minds" of the masses.  As I dom my control is intimate, shared and consensual....  Not many neo-puritans can say that.

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I will answer any questions concern the lifestyle and may annoy a few because I do dive into the history and psychology of this lifestyle in many of my answers. I have a partner a Femdom Mistress who shares my experiences and assets, as I hers. Also belonging to a couple groups in Europa and Asia. Traveling frequently between the continents. We tend to share information and discuss many of the topics frequently. I will focus on the core items around, training and relationship management for those that are interested.

Experience

I have been involved in the lifestyle since being introduced to it by my father at the age of 13. He was a master in the 50's to 80's but predated the popularity of Gor, and was Pharaonic in nature. I owned my own slaves since my early 20's. I have usually been part of a poly household. For about 6 years three of us ran a BDSM club in Prague until it was "acquired" by the Russian "businessmen". I do not hold any moral taboos about this lifestyle and at one time or another have experience or seen everything imaginable. It is in this absence of mrals that principles, protocols and personal honour must determine the worth of an individual. It is their clear and unwavering adherence to these ethics that make for stauncher things than those which some observance by mere lip service to common morals. When men/women of honour lead, then they do so without malice, without negativity and without thought of personal gain. It only then that they truly attain Dominon over others. Therefore in mastery comes a devotion to duty, and the existence, needs and desires of others that exceeds the submission mere slaves give to the Dominant. A Dominant one must lead, govern, educate and enrich the lives of subjects beign ruled... for otherwise they are but a sycophant and a tyrant. Hedonism and narcissism plays no part in this, it is an apparition that forms from acts done at much higher levels of meaning that mere morally bound persons can not see.

Organizations
I belong to a number of local clubs, and a loose association (not formal) of about 25 masters and mistresses here in Western Europe and Asia who share experiences, training and some exchange trade assets.

Publications
I have not published on BDSM under my name, but contribute frequently to forums. I am consolidating my writings slowly on DarkCastleSin.org for any that are interested in reading.

Education/Credentials
Not relevant although I do have a DCS and DT but I am not Christian so have no moral dilemmas with this lifestyle.

Awards and Honors
Not applicable here, come on in our lifestyle these do not exist but should. When was the last time we had public awards for Worlds Darkest Sadist, World's Most Gifted Shibaru Artist, Worlds Most Diligent Mentor, World's Most Gifted Enthusiast,

Past/Present Clients
Not relevant; private consults remain so.

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