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Why is topping from the bottom considered a bad thing? The phrase means that the sub gets to decide what the Master does to her, right? Isn't that the case in BDSM? That the Dom only gets to do stuff that the submissive is comfortable with? Can you please tell me the difference?

And is the Dominant superior to the submissive? And I think I might be a babygirl so would want to know more about DD/lg too.

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Topping from the bottom comes into play when you have given yourself to another, and yet you do not trust that person enough to allow them to take charge and to lead and direct you as you agreed upon in your agreement. That is when you do not get to has the say you are in the power of another, many agree but then never honestly give themselves over.  I hope this has helped you.
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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

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I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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