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I recently started a D/s relationship (I am the s) was only 2 weeks, but i completely fell in love with the D. So much that I want to be his Pet. He broke it off because I am married. I am currently seeking a divorce. Id there any possibility of continuing the D/s while I am married to someone else ?

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Sure!  Happens all the time.  I know MANY cases where the s-type has a D/s relationship outside their Vanilla marriage.

It's all about discussion, communication, and recognizing that one person is unlikely to be all things for you.  If possible, have the two guys sit down with you and map out the boundaries.  Sex? Ownership?

My partner and I distinguish between emotional fidelity and sexual fidelity.  We are emotionally committed to one another and love having other sexual play partners.

Best wishes -- I hope you can get your new Owner/pet relationship back!

Bob

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Robert Rubel (Dr. Bob)

Expertise

Anything related to BDSM or Master/slave relationships or activities.

Experience

See: www.KinkMastery.com I live 24/7 Master/slave lifestyle and have since 2002 both as Master and slave. My Owner and I present and do "weekend intensives" internationally and at BDSM conferences practically every month.

Organizations
Masters And slaves Together (MAsT) National Leather Association - International (NLA-I) National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF)

Publications
+++ BDSM Mastery—Basics: your guide to play, parties, and scene protocols. +++ BDSM Mastery—Relationships: a guide for creating mindful relationships for Dominants and submissives +++ Master/slave Mastery: Updated handbook of concepts, approaches, and practices +++ Master/slave Mastery--Advanced: Refining the fire; ideas that matter +++ Master/slave Mastery--Protocols: Focusing the intent of your relationship +++ Is THAT What They Meant? A book of practical communication insights

Education/Credentials
PhD, Urban Education Policy Studies with a minor in criminology, U of Wisconsin, Madison. EdM, Boston University with specialty in urban education Presented 80+ BDSM weekend conferences worldwide since 2007.

Awards and Honors
Pantheon of Leather Community Choice - Man, 2008

Past/Present Clients
Not applicable.

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