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Im very new in this. Im not young ... at least not very young (turning 37 next month). Recently ive met online somebody that opened my eyes about WHY I could not be happy in my previous relations. The answer is so simple: Im a Dominant nature yet ... ive been persuaded (begining with my mother, my ex husband .. my boss) to act as a submissive all my life. Found little satisfaction about it:). Not even been very good at it.
Recently Ive begun to explore my dominant side. I find it mutch more suitable to my profile, to my true core.
Yet there are so many things i would like to asck questions about. I know i should find a mentor. The person that Ive met ... it is not adequate for my personality. Or does not have the will to do it. So ... I dare to asck: could u be a good mentor? or ... can you recomand anybody?

Sincerely, Kary

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Kary

Natural dommes seem to rise from the ashes of their enforced (cultural or social) submission with a vengeance. I expect this is what is happening to you. I have many friends who transformed themselves. Some successfully, some less so. I can share those experiences with you if you wish. Dominance largely though is genderless, it is emotional and mental first then comes the physical aspects. But we must never forget that the physical aspects are the acts that reinforce the others and demonstrate the authority we have; and as such essential.

So I am willing to assist should you desire.  It is as much fun mentoring a dominant as it is training a submissive.  Just the aspects of gratification are different.

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I will answer any questions concern the lifestyle and may annoy a few because I do dive into the history and psychology of this lifestyle in many of my answers. I have a partner a Femdom Mistress who shares my experiences and assets, as I hers. Also belonging to a couple groups in Europa and Asia. Traveling frequently between the continents. We tend to share information and discuss many of the topics frequently. I will focus on the core items around, training and relationship management for those that are interested.

Experience

I have been involved in the lifestyle since being introduced to it by my father at the age of 13. He was a master in the 50's to 80's but predated the popularity of Gor, and was Pharaonic in nature. I owned my own slaves since my early 20's. I have usually been part of a poly household. For about 6 years three of us ran a BDSM club in Prague until it was "acquired" by the Russian "businessmen". I do not hold any moral taboos about this lifestyle and at one time or another have experience or seen everything imaginable. It is in this absence of mrals that principles, protocols and personal honour must determine the worth of an individual. It is their clear and unwavering adherence to these ethics that make for stauncher things than those which some observance by mere lip service to common morals. When men/women of honour lead, then they do so without malice, without negativity and without thought of personal gain. It only then that they truly attain Dominon over others. Therefore in mastery comes a devotion to duty, and the existence, needs and desires of others that exceeds the submission mere slaves give to the Dominant. A Dominant one must lead, govern, educate and enrich the lives of subjects beign ruled... for otherwise they are but a sycophant and a tyrant. Hedonism and narcissism plays no part in this, it is an apparition that forms from acts done at much higher levels of meaning that mere morally bound persons can not see.

Organizations
I belong to a number of local clubs, and a loose association (not formal) of about 25 masters and mistresses here in Western Europe and Asia who share experiences, training and some exchange trade assets.

Publications
I have not published on BDSM under my name, but contribute frequently to forums. I am consolidating my writings slowly on DarkCastleSin.org for any that are interested in reading.

Education/Credentials
Not relevant although I do have a DCS and DT but I am not Christian so have no moral dilemmas with this lifestyle.

Awards and Honors
Not applicable here, come on in our lifestyle these do not exist but should. When was the last time we had public awards for Worlds Darkest Sadist, World's Most Gifted Shibaru Artist, Worlds Most Diligent Mentor, World's Most Gifted Enthusiast,

Past/Present Clients
Not relevant; private consults remain so.

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