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Miss L,
I am delighted to have come across this site and thoroughly enjoyed reading the answers you have provided to other practicing dommes and subs.  I am a practicing domme myself and have been the owner of a live in male slave for over 2 years who has agreed to serve me unconditionally. He has no rights, no safe words, and has agreed take any form of punishment for his errors that I feel is appropriate. The punishments I administer for his mistakes are very severe, lasting many hours and generally result in excruciating pain. We have worked up to this over the years. While it can be very difficult for him to endure he understands that these punishments are designed to correct his behavior and make him a better slave.

Despite the harsh punishments I have unfortunately noticed a significant decline in his behavior and service particularly when giving a foot massage.  He seems to be inattentive careless and generally does not give a satisfying foot massage. Is there any techniques or forms of torture and punishment that you would recommend to correct this?

I have whipped him relentlessly and have shocked him with a cattle prod during the time he has massaged my feet but I am still not satisfied with his service. Please feel free to recommend the most extreme punishment methods as I would really like him to suffer for this and understand how important it is to serve his mistresses feet properly. Thank you.

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Rebecca

I am answering this after it being a long time in the pool it got recirculated to me.  I understand you wanted Miss L's or at least a woman's perspective on this.  I am sorry that they were not forth coming.  

First of, it appears that cruelty is something he seeks.  You application of pain and such is merely an aphrodisiac and not very effective. While it satisfies your need for a sadistic pleasure it does not apply the corrective action you seek.  A metal CBT would however, deny him his erections, I would include a lock of substantial form (titanium) which would preclude him running down and getting bolt cutters to get it off.  Every erections will be intensely painful for him and he would quickly learn the benefit of satisfying your needs over his.  Secondly, I would either shun or publicly humiliate him. Invite a life style friend over display him as so much meat and make fun of his manliness, make sure your friend is prepped for this, the effect can be quite daunting on men of strong egos.  Then shun him, ignore is every utterance, his presence, walk away from his advances, etc.

It would show how truly worthless you find his efforts. These are not the sort of things most lifestylers would do.  It would seem to much like play; but any true sadist knows that denying the maso its pain is the ultimate in sadism.  Denying those who crave the things they most desire, is the harshest of punishment.  People can endure almost anything. Why do thing isolation is the prefetred form or correction inside a prison.

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I will answer any questions concern the lifestyle and may annoy a few because I do dive into the history and psychology of this lifestyle in many of my answers. I have a partner a Femdom Mistress who shares my experiences and assets, as I hers. Also belonging to a couple groups in Europa and Asia. Traveling frequently between the continents. We tend to share information and discuss many of the topics frequently. I will focus on the core items around, training and relationship management for those that are interested.

Experience

I have been involved in the lifestyle since being introduced to it by my father at the age of 13. He was a master in the 50's to 80's but predated the popularity of Gor, and was Pharaonic in nature. I owned my own slaves since my early 20's. I have usually been part of a poly household. For about 6 years three of us ran a BDSM club in Prague until it was "acquired" by the Russian "businessmen". I do not hold any moral taboos about this lifestyle and at one time or another have experience or seen everything imaginable. It is in this absence of mrals that principles, protocols and personal honour must determine the worth of an individual. It is their clear and unwavering adherence to these ethics that make for stauncher things than those which some observance by mere lip service to common morals. When men/women of honour lead, then they do so without malice, without negativity and without thought of personal gain. It only then that they truly attain Dominon over others. Therefore in mastery comes a devotion to duty, and the existence, needs and desires of others that exceeds the submission mere slaves give to the Dominant. A Dominant one must lead, govern, educate and enrich the lives of subjects beign ruled... for otherwise they are but a sycophant and a tyrant. Hedonism and narcissism plays no part in this, it is an apparition that forms from acts done at much higher levels of meaning that mere morally bound persons can not see.

Organizations
I belong to a number of local clubs, and a loose association (not formal) of about 25 masters and mistresses here in Western Europe and Asia who share experiences, training and some exchange trade assets.

Publications
I have not published on BDSM under my name, but contribute frequently to forums. I am consolidating my writings slowly on DarkCastleSin.org for any that are interested in reading.

Education/Credentials
Not relevant although I do have a DCS and DT but I am not Christian so have no moral dilemmas with this lifestyle.

Awards and Honors
Not applicable here, come on in our lifestyle these do not exist but should. When was the last time we had public awards for Worlds Darkest Sadist, World's Most Gifted Shibaru Artist, Worlds Most Diligent Mentor, World's Most Gifted Enthusiast,

Past/Present Clients
Not relevant; private consults remain so.

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