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Hi!
So ever since I was younger (like 12) ive been intrigued by BDSM. Now that ive finally reached the legal age of 18 (yay!!). I've been exploring a bit more and made accounts on different dating and social sites. Well I found someone and I've been chatting with them for a couple days now, we've been discussing what we like, limits, etc. But he's 37, and I am 18 (which is legal). I'm also a virgin (he knows this). Now that things are starting to seem more real, and like they are actually going to happen, I am starting to have second thoughts and get worried, even though this is something I've always wanted. I dont even really know what my question is. I'm just hoping I can get an opinion or some feedback on my situation. Thanks!

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One of the most important things you can do as a submissive is to frame your service and play in the correct light. If you hold out on actually going through the motions of losing your virginity and beginning D/s play, you may find that your nervousness will give way to excitement and a full body sub-high. Everyone gets nervous or worried when they actually jump through a hoop and start doing something they have always wanted to do, but were never willing/able to. It will probably be the case that you will stop being nervous after the first scene. Harness and foster your nervousness, and focus your nervous energy into a lot of communication before the big day(s). Make sure it is everything you want, appreciate it, and show how much you enjoyed yourself (to your D) if you do. If not, there are more days ahead, and you have a long life staring you in the face.

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Expertise

I am open and willing to answer any questions involving BDSM that do not specifically concern illegal acts involving children or non-consensual assault against an unwilling party.

Experience

I have had BDSM experience in a professional capacity since 2005. As far as personal, non-professional experience, I have always taken the lead in relationships, friendships, and other situational interactions. I prefer to "wear the pants" so to speak. However, this is not to say I wear the physical pants: I am mostly seen wearing skirts.

Organizations
National Coalition for Sexual Freedom

Publications
Excitedly, this will be my first foray into professional writing about BDSM, however my vanilla writings have appeared in several publications online. I am the former main web editor of a very popular DIY website, writing articles about electronics, repurposing, and sustainability.

Education/Credentials
I have participated in many educational workshops held by Pro-Dommes. I have also hosted a few workshops involving BDSM issues. I have done extensive research on D/s power dynamics and BDSM. As far as education, however, professional sessions and interactions with clients have provided most of my experience.

Past/Present Clients
I have a multitude of both. I specialize in clients with physical handicaps, rare kinks, edge play, LGBT lifestyles, and other underrepresented or marginalized groups.

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