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I am in a Daddy/baby girl relationship. My daddy made it clear from the start that he would not agree to share me however he does want me to accept that he sees others. He has a woman that he calls pig. He has had the two of us together a couple of times. It doesn't bother me that he sees her but I recently found out that he has another baby girl. This is driving me crazy! I have talked to daddy about it. He says that he cares about us both deeply and doesn't want to lose either one of us. Do you have any suggestions as to how I can deal with my jealousy?  I have cried for days  I can't stop thinking about it. Thank you

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The mental/emotional perspective that most people in successful poly relationships is known as "comperssion" - being happy and finding contentment in your partners happiness and pleasure. It doesn't mean you can't miss your partner, or wish you could be spending time together. But it does mean it doesn't torture you: you find joy in his happiness

But that doesn't mean poky is for everyone. Wanting a mono relationship (or even exclusivity within a role) doesn't Make you a "bad" partner. So be honest with yourself and your Daddy on what you need to be happy. It may be that what each of you need is or isn't compatible. But being in a relationship that doesn't meet your needs is pretty certain to leave you unhappy

And while we're on the topic of honesty, it would have been better if he communicated his desires both at the early stages of your relationship and once he started a new relationship

Best of luck  

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Questions related to power-based relationships in which decision-making authority is intentionally and consensually transferred -- and the resulting imbalance celebrated. I am able to assist those trying to understand where they fit in, and those seeking to structure and thrive in a power based relationships. Specific topics I am able to discuss include: setting and achieving personal and relationship goals, responsible Mastery, the use of protocols and rituals, communication techniques, and conflict resolution. In addition, I am knowledgable and experienced in polyamory, long-distance relationships, bisexuality and a variety of kinky activities ranging from mind games to sadistic play.

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I have chosen to have a power-based structure in my relationships over the past 18 years. This has included a 16-year M/s relationship, several shorter term D/s relationships and various play partners. I am an active participant in various online forums and seek to provide support and advice to those interested in the Lifestyle.

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