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hi..i am on church of chains, and got e mail from a female slave that lives in london, she is already pushing for a plane ticket to come here, even tho that may be at least 2 or 3 months away. so, my question is, what kind of psychology do they have to have in order to move in with a couple,long term, to be the slave; what would motivate that? thank you!

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Hi, James...

Thanks for writing.  Interesting question.

People have their own reasons for doing things. Perhaps the most obvious motivation that pops into my head is to get US citizenship.  

If I were interested in having a female slave join my Household, I'd want to know quite a bit about their prior slave experiences. I'd want letters of referral from their former Master(s) and I'd want to know quite a bit about their dreams of what it would be like to live full-time with you. I'd want to know what they imagined their duties and responsibilities would be, what role sm play would have in their lives, etc.  I'd also want to know how much money this slave is bringing with it to support itself while living with my Family. I'd want to know their work and education background and and and and and

On the face of it, it sounds too good to be true.

Hope this helps,

Bob

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Robert Rubel (Dr. Bob)

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Anything related to BDSM or Master/slave relationships or activities.

Experience

See: www.KinkMastery.com I live 24/7 Master/slave lifestyle and have since 2002 both as Master and slave. My Owner and I present and do "weekend intensives" internationally and at BDSM conferences practically every month.

Organizations
Masters And slaves Together (MAsT) National Leather Association - International (NLA-I) National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF)

Publications
+++ BDSM Mastery—Basics: your guide to play, parties, and scene protocols. +++ BDSM Mastery—Relationships: a guide for creating mindful relationships for Dominants and submissives +++ Master/slave Mastery: Updated handbook of concepts, approaches, and practices +++ Master/slave Mastery--Advanced: Refining the fire; ideas that matter +++ Master/slave Mastery--Protocols: Focusing the intent of your relationship +++ Is THAT What They Meant? A book of practical communication insights

Education/Credentials
PhD, Urban Education Policy Studies with a minor in criminology, U of Wisconsin, Madison. EdM, Boston University with specialty in urban education Presented 80+ BDSM weekend conferences worldwide since 2007.

Awards and Honors
Pantheon of Leather Community Choice - Man, 2008

Past/Present Clients
Not applicable.

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