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19 female. I was curious if I was a sub, or just had some sort of kink that was associated with being a submissive. Me and my girlfriend are planning on buying me a collar because I love the idea of being owned. I'm submissive in bed but like to resist, not to the extent that I challenge my partner for power. Thats where I get confused if I am a sub or not. I don't like the idea of completely submissing, I like having that fight in me but I like being dominated, to having pleasure kind of forced on me as I try to resist. I'm not great with pain but being rough is fine. Stuff like bites and hickies that leave marks on my body feed my need for being owned.

Even when I think of scenes for rape fantasies I'm still resisting, and want to be forced into enjoying it instead of them just doing it for their own pleasure.

So do you think I'm just a stubborn sub or a selfish one? Or not one at all?

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Sam,

I do not think it is either, I think it is just how you are wired.. Since you do not push or make it a challenge for your partner when it comes to Power, than I would not worry about it if your Girlfriend is not worried.. I know plenty of submissive's who are still in control but simply need/want someone who is more in control or stronger in control .. So for you I would just remember as long as you are getting the needs met, and your other half has no issues with how you are, than things are just as they should be for your relationship.

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Fem Dom relationships, Male Dom/fem slave, Master/slave relationships M/f, F/f, Long Distance relationships, Leather community, Victorian Lifestyle, BDSM play, Community support, Full time slavery and submission *living together, and how to adjust, protocols, and so forth. Web pages and site for help with finding others in your area. HOH or DD relationships. D/s has always been a part of me I am still active in looking for a relationship either D/s or Mistress/slave, or simply learning more in order to help others. I am always reading, either on the net or books.

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I have been in long distance relationship that were D/s relationships. I have owned both male and female slaves/submissive, I have been both a real time slave, submissive, and submissive wife. I am not in a committed relationship at the moment. I just moved to Indina with in the last year. I can be found on Fetlife.com as LadyAryana. I am not collared, and I still am always on the look for others to play with around me. Slowing I am returning to being active in the community here in Indiana. In the past I have been active in the BDSM community and a DM for play parties. I have been active for the last 20+ yrs in BDSM in one way or another

Organizations
I was active in the GA community when I lived there. I am semi active in Indiana since moving here, I attend munches and demo's / play parties GRALE, Belong to PEP, and other BDSM clubs over the yrs.

Publications
Egroups, Blogs, Journals, And some story writings.

Education/Credentials
Have taken work shops for different BDSM events. Attended SELF given demo's, Been a DM for play parties and private and public clubs. Attending gathering of both D/s, Spanking lifestyles. I have been active in HOH and DD relationships. I was active in the leather community while living in GA. I was trained Victorian and and Gorean, I understand that training varies in each relationship so you adjust to what it is you do for the relationship you are in. I have trained both Master's and Mistress' along with slaves in the yrs I have been in BDSM.

Past/Present Clients
Master, slave, submissive, Tops, and Bottoms. Along with those who simply wanted to learn how to be kinky in the bedroom

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