BDSM/Subspace

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I am new to the lifestyle and have a question about subspace. I have talked with some people who have said they have reached subspace while dreaming of being with their Sir. I would like to know if this is possible? I have asked a number of different people and they can't answer.

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eileen.

Just as it is possible for someone to "think" themselves to orgasm without touching their body, it is possible to achieve subspace by simply fantasizing. It may take a lot of effort, or a lot of tease and denial, but it can happen. Is it commonplace? No. Do people think they achieve subspace without actually getting there? Sure. There are quite a few women who plateaued in their pleasure, and didn't realize they were lacking orgasms, until they had a true orgasm. Similar situations are possible with subspace. It is most likely that subspace is the thing they want to believe they are achieving, as an homage to their Sir. They may be exaggerating, or outright lying, but I will not say it is impossible.  

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I am open and willing to answer any questions involving BDSM that do not specifically concern illegal acts involving children or non-consensual assault against an unwilling party.

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I have had BDSM experience in a professional capacity since 2005. As far as personal, non-professional experience, I have always taken the lead in relationships, friendships, and other situational interactions. I prefer to "wear the pants" so to speak. However, this is not to say I wear the physical pants: I am mostly seen wearing skirts.

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National Coalition for Sexual Freedom

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Excitedly, this will be my first foray into professional writing about BDSM, however my vanilla writings have appeared in several publications online. I am the former main web editor of a very popular DIY website, writing articles about electronics, repurposing, and sustainability.

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I have participated in many educational workshops held by Pro-Dommes. I have also hosted a few workshops involving BDSM issues. I have done extensive research on D/s power dynamics and BDSM. As far as education, however, professional sessions and interactions with clients have provided most of my experience.

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I have a multitude of both. I specialize in clients with physical handicaps, rare kinks, edge play, LGBT lifestyles, and other underrepresented or marginalized groups.

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