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I'm a twenty year old female submissive and very new to the kink community. I most definitely know what I'm interested in trying, but my partner is unwilling to do anything BDSM-related. We are in an open relationship, and I think finding a Dom/me online for a long-distance D/s relationship would be an ideal place to start. However, I can't exactly just google it. I was wondering if you could recommend a good website for this purpose, or perhaps if you know someone who is interested? Any relevant reading materials for beginners would be welcome also. Thanks!

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Jade,

I am not sure where to send you other than Fetlife or Collarmespace.com either place you should be able to find someone online. Although I will say up front I am not one for doing something behind your partner back, so if you decide to do this I would suggest you let him know what you are going if it is strictly online. This way if he starts to think there is more going on, he knows it is just online.

As for reading not sure what you are asking books or online, so I will give you a little both.. Books I suggest are as follows

SM 101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman

Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice (M/s Studies Books) by PhD Robert J Rubel

The Compleat Slave: Creating And Living An Erotic Dominant/submissive Lifestyle by Jack Rinella and Joseph W. Bean

This also has a book for the Master, its named the The Compleat Master by the same writer

Training With Miss Abernathy: A Workbook for Erotic Slaves and Their Owners by Christina Abernathy

Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission by William Brame and Gloria Brame

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by Philip Miller and Molly Devon


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Fem Dom relationships, Male Dom/fem slave, Master/slave relationships M/f, F/f, Long Distance relationships, Leather community, Victorian Lifestyle, BDSM play, Community support, Full time slavery and submission *living together, and how to adjust, protocols, and so forth. Web pages and site for help with finding others in your area. HOH or DD relationships. D/s has always been a part of me I am still active in looking for a relationship either D/s or Mistress/slave, or simply learning more in order to help others. I am always reading, either on the net or books.

Experience

I have been in long distance relationship that were D/s relationships. I have owned both male and female slaves/submissive, I have been both a real time slave, submissive, and submissive wife. I am not in a committed relationship at the moment. I just moved to Indina with in the last year. I can be found on Fetlife.com as LadyAryana. I am not collared, and I still am always on the look for others to play with around me. Slowing I am returning to being active in the community here in Indiana. In the past I have been active in the BDSM community and a DM for play parties. I have been active for the last 20+ yrs in BDSM in one way or another

Organizations
I was active in the GA community when I lived there. I am semi active in Indiana since moving here, I attend munches and demo's / play parties GRALE, Belong to PEP, and other BDSM clubs over the yrs.

Publications
Egroups, Blogs, Journals, And some story writings.

Education/Credentials
Have taken work shops for different BDSM events. Attended SELF given demo's, Been a DM for play parties and private and public clubs. Attending gathering of both D/s, Spanking lifestyles. I have been active in HOH and DD relationships. I was active in the leather community while living in GA. I was trained Victorian and and Gorean, I understand that training varies in each relationship so you adjust to what it is you do for the relationship you are in. I have trained both Master's and Mistress' along with slaves in the yrs I have been in BDSM.

Past/Present Clients
Master, slave, submissive, Tops, and Bottoms. Along with those who simply wanted to learn how to be kinky in the bedroom

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