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Hi. I am 25 years old. I have always desired a femdom relationship. Every time I have ever begun a relationship or dated a girl I just feel unsatisfied because I can't deal with the fact that male submission will not be a part of it. I have tried going to pro doms for a session but that leaves me even more unsatisfied. What I really want is a truly dominant woman who enjoys dominating me because she is naturally dominant just like I am naturally submissive. Paying a woman to spank me just feels very empty and it feels like the person is simply doing it for money which I hate.

What I want to ask is are there women who are naturally dominant, women who would take me in hand and enjoy breaking me? I find it surprising that there are so many more male doms than female doms. Most erotic literature on this subject also primarily depicts males as the ones who are dominant while the women are always submissive. Is it true that male doms outnumber female doms? I also find that the numbers of male submissive are disproportionate to female doms as well. it seems there are far more male subs than female doms.

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Jake,

I am not sure about where you are from but even here in the US it is about right.. There seems to be more male doms then there are female.. So even here it is hard to find a Mistress when you are a male submissive. I would suggest if you are not already to sign up for fetlife.com and see if you are able to find someone in your area or surrounding areas that can offer you what it is you are looking for.

There are women out there who are Dominant without needing money, although with the web nowadays and the fact so many people are willing to pay instead of wait you will find it hard to match up with her. Though I can not promise you will find someone on fet you are more likely to find someone who really is seeking a submissive, not just a paycheck.

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Fem Dom relationships, Male Dom/fem slave, Master/slave relationships M/f, F/f, Long Distance relationships, Leather community, Victorian Lifestyle, BDSM play, Community support, Full time slavery and submission *living together, and how to adjust, protocols, and so forth. Web pages and site for help with finding others in your area. HOH or DD relationships. D/s has always been a part of me I am still active in looking for a relationship either D/s or Mistress/slave, or simply learning more in order to help others. I am always reading, either on the net or books.

Experience

I have been in long distance relationship that were D/s relationships. I have owned both male and female slaves/submissive, I have been both a real time slave, submissive, and submissive wife. I am not in a committed relationship at the moment. I just moved to Indina with in the last year. I can be found on Fetlife.com as LadyAryana. I am not collared, and I still am always on the look for others to play with around me. Slowing I am returning to being active in the community here in Indiana. In the past I have been active in the BDSM community and a DM for play parties. I have been active for the last 20+ yrs in BDSM in one way or another

Organizations
I was active in the GA community when I lived there. I am semi active in Indiana since moving here, I attend munches and demo's / play parties GRALE, Belong to PEP, and other BDSM clubs over the yrs.

Publications
Egroups, Blogs, Journals, And some story writings.

Education/Credentials
Have taken work shops for different BDSM events. Attended SELF given demo's, Been a DM for play parties and private and public clubs. Attending gathering of both D/s, Spanking lifestyles. I have been active in HOH and DD relationships. I was active in the leather community while living in GA. I was trained Victorian and and Gorean, I understand that training varies in each relationship so you adjust to what it is you do for the relationship you are in. I have trained both Master's and Mistress' along with slaves in the yrs I have been in BDSM.

Past/Present Clients
Master, slave, submissive, Tops, and Bottoms. Along with those who simply wanted to learn how to be kinky in the bedroom

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