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I am looking for a 24/7 slave I have interest in 2 slaves 1 is into heavy pain she talks for a bit tnen egnores me it is like she is wanting to be a slave in charge she is to come to me soon says she wants to disaper to me this makes me wounder what is going on any sugestions ??

the other slave is a very sweet person seems to want to be a slave I gave her a few dollars to help with medicine then I caught her in a lie she wants me to send traveling money is ok I question is it a scam or not should I go pick her up with my mh.just drop it & move on it is hard to find a slave that is truly a slave. any advice what to do in both cases.    thank you

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Lee -

Rather than answer your question directly, I'll give you some questions to ponder in an effort to help you get the best answer for yourself

From my perspective a Master/slave relationship is just that - a relationship. There are real differences - most notably how decisions are made - but there is still a basic need for comparable interests and needs. So let's start from there:

1 do you have a vision for how you want to structure and run your relationship?
2 do you know what you expect from your slave?
3 how do you like to communicate?
4 will it be a sexual relationship? If so, mono or poly?
5 will your slave work outside the home?
6 will you control your skave's finances? If so, how will this work?

Now....

1 what are your potential skave's views on this questions and do they align?
2 what does the skave need from a Master and can you and do you want to provide that?

As you can see, an M/s relationship needs effective communication and a strong foundation of trust. Do you feel you have those building blocks with either potential slave?

As the Sholin Master said in the old Kung Fu series: choose wisely

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Questions related to power-based relationships in which decision-making authority is intentionally and consensually transferred -- and the resulting imbalance celebrated. I am able to assist those trying to understand where they fit in, and those seeking to structure and thrive in a power based relationships. Specific topics I am able to discuss include: setting and achieving personal and relationship goals, responsible Mastery, the use of protocols and rituals, communication techniques, and conflict resolution. In addition, I am knowledgable and experienced in polyamory, long-distance relationships, bisexuality and a variety of kinky activities ranging from mind games to sadistic play.

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I have chosen to have a power-based structure in my relationships over the past 18 years. This has included a 16-year M/s relationship, several shorter term D/s relationships and various play partners. I am an active participant in various online forums and seek to provide support and advice to those interested in the Lifestyle.

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My writings, insights and discussion contributions are available on Alt.com and FetLife.com. On both websites, my user name is BenMartin

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I do not hold any credentials specific to BDSM, relying instead on knowledge gained from life experiences, reading and conversing with others in the Lifestyle.

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